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Back to that age-old question… why are you still single?
Sometimes it’s helpful to have a sounding board — be it a therapist, a best friend, or a parent — to talk about your past relationships so they can help you see any patterns along the way. As one of my friend’s says “come join me on the other side of the street” so you can look at yourself from another perspective.
Are you attracted to a certain type who is likely not complementary to you… but you don’t know it? Do you sabotage your relationships and you’re not even aware of it? Do you portray yourself as something different than how other people see you?
If you think you may be standing in your own way of finding love (and everyone is to some capacity), then ask for the brutal truth from a trusted source so you can begin evolving.
Buzzfeed.com posted the top “24 Things Single People Are Tired of Hearing” last month and, for the most part, it was spot on! Not only are you probably hearing many of these phrases on a weekly, if not daily, basis… but you may also be guilty of saying them as well. When you hear one of these lines spewing from an innocent, yet annoying person, take a deep breath, smile and say, “thank you.” And then make sure you eliminate these lines from your brain as well.
Some of my favorites:
- “How are you still single? You’re so great!”
- “It’ll happen when you least expect it.”
- “Just relax and it will happen.” (Or “Stop thinking about it and it will happen.” Ugh!)
- “Don’t worry, you’ll find someone eventually.”
- “You’re just too picky.”
- “You have to love yourself before you can love someone else.”
Try to keep the eye-rolling, nose-wrinkling, lip-pursing facial expressions to yourself. The people who are making these comments are being naive because chances are they’re either still in the honeymoon-phase of a relationship, or they’ve been married so long they can’t remember what it’s like to date.
Bottom line: don’t take it personally. Shake it off and move on.