Comments on: A Guys’ Guide to JDating®

By: R

Fri, 23 Apr 2010 05:13:11 +0000

I wish you a life of happiness.
I however, would not call you a success story, unless you are saying that looking for 20 years is what someone would want to have to do.

People tend to be habitual. Single people tend to do things that keep them single. Players are not called players because they don’t repeat their actions.

Many people who marry, will marry again.

Check the statistics.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 11 Feb 2010 15:48:11 +0000

CES, I think you are creating more of the problem then the ageist thing. I am 35 and I get emails ALL the time, I honestly don’t find that a problem on THIS site at all!! I think men even if they say an age catagory will even look beyond that and make allowences, I have looked at their age preference on their profile and at times i may be a year off and they will still contact me.I understand the 50 year old men problem not being welcome but,i have seen some VERY hot 50 year olds that even I would date. I love this site because there are so many available single men in their 30′s and 40′s. Maybe the issue for you is that you are interested in men that are too young, for you. If you are 30 maybe your look attracts 35or 40. Try different pictures a different look. Plus…. I think women lie about their age too!

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:12:09 +0000

HAHA! Professional editor perhaps, but also a tired one. Sorry Brad.

By: Anne

Anne — Wed, 16 Dec 2009 10:10:14 +0000

Hi Ben – I am a Jdate user and very much appreciate you giving men this advice! My dating experiences will be far more pleasant if the men I meet utilize your experience! I especially appreciate that you suggest a man proof-read his email before sending it; thus said, you have 5 pronoun errors in your article. :} Are you looking for an editor?

Sincerely,
Anne (the professional editor)

By: Ben Soriano

Ben Soriano — Sun, 20 Sep 2009 20:15:40 +0000

Hi Brad,
I broke up a month ago with someone I met offline.
I would like a long term relationship so I resumed JDating.
I had a recent correspondence with a woman on JDate and she just changed her pictures. I know, it was my mistake to write to her as if she looked at my profile for the first time, but I was totally disoriented because she changed all of her pictures. I know, after reading your guide to JDating, that I should read the profile before e mailing her. Now my concern is that particular woman may report a concern about me because she thinks I harass girls on the internet. If she reports a concern about me, how will I know? It is obvious she doesn’t want to meet me because she realizes I write to many women and doesn’t recognize her at first sight. I understand. If women on JDate learn to know me, they will realize that I am totally harmless and that I do not harass, never.

My advice to make JDate better is the following: remind me at each profile I look that I have already emailed that woman. If I was reminded, I would not have made that mistake and I would have left that woman alone.

By: CES

CES — Fri, 18 Sep 2009 18:02:45 +0000

Brad –

Thank you for your advice. I’ve been on JDate over one year and found that many guys, however well meaning, list their age as younger than they really are, don’t write very much or write “tell you more when we talk,” and often just contact me because of my pictures not because we are appropriate for each other. One more thought for you – would you PLEASE address the issue of ageism in a future column? My experience thus far is that men around my age (late 30′s) have little interest in women over 35, and often list an even younger age range (like 22to 32)in their preferences. It gets increasingly frustrating trying to find someone when, by respecting their stated age preferences, there is no one left under 50 to go for!

Thanks!

By: alax

alax — Thu, 17 Sep 2009 23:49:57 +0000

Hi Brad. How about introducing me to a nice Jewish guy. Been on and off since 2003. It gets a little old…

By: Brad Berkowitz

Brad Berkowitz — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 21:36:09 +0000

Joan,

I will now be writing a monthly article on JDate and will answer all comments.

Thanks, Brad Berkowitz

By: Brad Berkowitz

Brad Berkowitz — Mon, 14 Sep 2009 21:35:33 +0000

David,

I suggest you have a couple of your girl friends take a look at your profile. Make sure you have a few nice photos up there and that your profile essays are strong. If your photos aren’t current, put some updated ones up there. This way your profile will get some fresh looks. I have an article that will be on JMag by Friday that will address some of these issues.

Brad Berkowitz

By: mina kuper

mina kuper — Sun, 06 Sep 2009 16:16:09 +0000

Hi Brad this is Mina Kuper I hope you remember me. Anyway would like to speak with you about something I feel you would be interested in. you have my email above.

Mina