http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/07/his-perspective-the-functional-value-of-heartache/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Thu, 23 May 2013 23:48:03 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/07/his-perspective-the-functional-value-of-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-474 Susan Tue, 03 Nov 2009 23:33:31 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=546#comment-474 Sandi just wasn't ready to make you a priority, or you weren't the right one for her. Oh well- someone is out there who will be focused on you. I believe that, after dating someone a bit, if you have to hold back and can't be honest, there's no future with that person, anyway. I was in a relationship for many years that started on jdate; it wasn't a success story in the end. But I haven't given up hope! Sandi just wasn’t ready to make you a priority, or you weren’t the right one for her. Oh well- someone is out there who will be focused on you. I believe that, after dating someone a bit, if you have to hold back and can’t be honest, there’s no future with that person, anyway. I was in a relationship for many years that started on jdate; it wasn’t a success story in the end. But I haven’t given up hope!

]]> http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/07/his-perspective-the-functional-value-of-heartache/comment-page-1/#comment-465 Cheryl Klein Tue, 03 Nov 2009 08:28:52 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=546#comment-465 From a "Sandi" point of view I think you took her personal guestions about your "past" too seriously. Did you ever think that she felt a spark too and was just trying to see if you were available emotionally for a more serious relationship. It seems by your loss of interest that either you are not ready or mature enough to let go of the "secret" past and move on. You should resolve these issues or stay off the online dating scene. From a “Sandi” point of view I think you took her personal guestions about your “past” too seriously. Did you ever think that she felt a spark too and was just trying to see if you were available emotionally for a more serious relationship. It seems by your loss of interest that either you are not ready or mature enough to let go of the “secret” past and move on. You should resolve these issues or stay off the online dating scene.

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