Comments on: A Well-Written Profile

By: JL

JL — Wed, 02 Jun 2010 03:54:07 +0000

How do men, let’s say over 40, feel about a woman over 40 with smile lines around the eyes?

And Brad, and/or any guy, what do guys want to hear on the profiles?
I’ve lived a very full life.
How much/what is interesting, and how much is too much?

Thanks,
JL

By: Joel

Joel — Tue, 05 Jan 2010 16:43:19 +0000

About relative age in relationships:
Make rules for yourself, don’t try to make rules for other people. I’m 72, and my wife was three years younger than me. Some time after her death (many decades ago), I pursued and had a wonderful relationship with, a woman 15 years older than me. Later, I was pursued by and then had a wonderful relationship with, a woman 17 years younger than me.

About people who don’t respond to emails:
This is the mark of a person who cares only for themselves, and not a whit for others. You are fortunate that they revealed themselves to you. Those unfortunates who they did answer, may find out after much heartache, that which you learned immediately.

Try to make yourself desirable:
Be sure that your profile is friendly and not haughty. Put a smile on your face and photo, and be clean & combed. If you’re a woman (I’m not being sexist, just reporting the current standard in our society) use tasteful cosmetics, including fingernail polish. Everyone might not like your choice of eyeglass style. Consider taking your photos without eyeglasses. Consider using “frameless” eyeglasses.

By: Brad Berkowitz

Brad Berkowitz — Wed, 11 Nov 2009 20:25:24 +0000

Daniel,

I was very honest and thorough in my paragraphs. My photos were updated roughly every 2 months or so to keep them current and to get more looks from girls. I sometimes changed my paragraphs a little to keep them fresh.

It can take time, but the site defintely works. Stick to it.

By: Daniel

Daniel — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:36:40 +0000

Brad, as you ar a JDate success story, what exactly did you put in the profile that got you the one! I have followed yout tips without success.

By: Abraham

Abraham — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 03:18:45 +0000

To JustAGuy, are these women you mention about wanting marriage after 6 weeks of dating still on JDate? If so, what are their profile names because like Alex’s comment above, I would love to date a girl in their thirties who wants to get married soon. This is why I am on Jdate, to marry the right one. I am in my early to mid forties.

By: Brad Berkowitz

Brad Berkowitz — Tue, 03 Nov 2009 01:31:31 +0000

As an answer to the person asking about “lying” about your age: If you list your age incorrectly at the top, you MUST put the correct age in the profile paragraph and mention that you only put the incorrect age in there for search purposes only. Lying is a bad thing and you will always get caught. In fact, don’t lie about anything: age, height, preferences, etc. It will always come back to bite you.

A well written profile is important. If somebody is not contacting you or replying to your note, move on. They aren’t interested. A woman will be more likely to read a man’s profile than a man wil. A man will rely more on the photos.

By: Michele

Michele — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 21:41:12 +0000

John…. Attractiveness is in the eyes of the beholder. A man 70 may think a woman 65 is a stunner, whereas a man 70 may see a woman at 30 as a child. So, it is “your” reality check, which really is quite limiting and well, does nothing for most women. And, this woman, no matter what I look like, would be turned off by it since we all age. However, I do think everyone needs to be honest and not misrepresent themselves. I am also quite attractive and have very up to date photos…but, I am assuming that as I age, my physical appearance will change, too

By: John

John — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 08:52:37 +0000

Unfortunately, I disagree about the well written profile. Sure it’s better than having nothing in the profile, but although I consider myself handsome, attractive looking women regardless of age won’t correspond with you whether it’s your photo or any other reason because you never get replies from them whether it’s flirts, ecards or well written emails. Attractive women twenties to forties need a major reality check. They don’t stay young and attractive forever, therefore it doesn’t make them a catch!

By: Alex

Alex — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 08:41:44 +0000

Ladies, please don’t be put off by JustAGuy’s comments. I would love an atrractive lady 30 plus to want to marry me. I am an eligible bachelor in my mid 40′s and I find the reverse situation, that a lady doesn’t want to commit.

By: Trevor

Trevor — Fri, 30 Oct 2009 08:38:13 +0000

Can someone please tell me what women really want? Pardon the pun, as this is of course, a well known film? I keep reading that guys go for looks, which is true. However, a lot of women complain about men going for much younger women due to youthful looks, but I haven’t read any women’s thoughts about what they are after in a man, in an order of priority. Could a lady please enlighten me as men keep getting rejected, not knowing the real reasons, and after reading all the dating tips.