Comments on: Give Spark A Chance http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 17 May 2013 23:42:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Harley Abrams http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 Harley Abrams Tue, 29 Dec 2009 23:54:07 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-1020 Don't relationships take time. Is one face to face meeting enough to decide that a guy/gal is not worth seeing again ? I personally don't think so. Don’t relationships take time.
Is one face to face meeting enough to decide that a guy/gal is not worth seeing again ? I personally don’t think so.

]]> By: Bruce http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-994 Bruce Wed, 23 Dec 2009 23:35:05 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-994 Sherri, I have been dating for 6 years and have always believed that meeting soon after a mutual exchange of emails is important. Talking to someone and meeting will immediately give you a good feel for who your date is. The profile is only a starting point. One must move quickly past it. After a first date and if there is some kind of interest, I often will go on a second date. However, if no spark exists after the second date for either I suggest the "next" factor which my sister laughs at, however agrees. I have gone out with some truly good women from Jdate and have several friends and relatives who met and married from Jdate. So good luck to all, however, meet and see if something is there. Bruce Sherri,

I have been dating for 6 years and have always believed that meeting soon after a mutual exchange of emails is important. Talking to someone and meeting will immediately give you a good feel for who your date is. The profile is only a starting point. One must move quickly past it.

After a first date and if there is some kind of interest, I often will go on a second date. However, if no spark exists after the second date for either I suggest the “next” factor which my sister laughs at, however agrees.

I have gone out with some truly good women from Jdate and have several friends and relatives who met and married from Jdate.

So good luck to all, however, meet and see if something is there.

Bruce

]]> By: Ter http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-592 Ter Wed, 11 Nov 2009 19:08:15 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-592 I can see where you might be frustrated. I guess like anything else its just a numbers game. I believe it is so easy to hide behind the screen for both gendures. Somehow when that happens we think we can be rude and it goes un-noticed, which is obviously untrue from your comments and many other men I have heard from. I do personally respond to every email(not flirts) even if I am not interested, I say thanks for taking the time to send a note, but I don't think we'd be a good match and best of luck in your search. Keep trying and keep things fresh, eventually a woman who is truly worth your time will respond. I can see where you might be frustrated. I guess like anything else its just a numbers game. I believe it is so easy to hide behind the screen for both gendures. Somehow when that happens we think we can be rude and it goes un-noticed, which is obviously untrue from your comments and many other men I have heard from. I do personally respond to every email(not flirts) even if I am not interested, I say thanks for taking the time to send a note, but I don’t think we’d be a good match and best of luck in your search. Keep trying and keep things fresh, eventually a woman who is truly worth your time will respond.

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-576 Jeremy Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:39:14 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-576 Ter, what do you suggest I use in the subject matter instead of Hi or Good Afternoon? I really can't think of anything that can be published on these comments! Your feedback would be greatly appreciated and I hope it can break my dating drought! Ter, what do you suggest I use in the subject matter instead of Hi or Good Afternoon? I really can’t think of anything that can be published on these comments! Your feedback would be greatly appreciated and I hope it can break my dating drought!

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-575 Jeremy Tue, 10 Nov 2009 23:34:45 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-575 Ter, thanks for the advice but I had already EMAILED at least 20 attractive ladies, without a response, with a hi in the subject matter and commenting about their profile after reading it. The flirts and ecards were sent years ago, the emails were done recently. Therefore I am completely at a loss as my profile photo is good too. Ter, thanks for the advice but I had already EMAILED at least 20 attractive ladies, without a response, with a hi in the subject matter and commenting about their profile after reading it. The flirts and ecards were sent years ago, the emails were done recently. Therefore I am completely at a loss as my profile photo is good too.

]]> By: Ter http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-571 Ter Tue, 10 Nov 2009 21:48:28 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-571 Jeremy...I have heard from many men that the women don't respond to an email. I do have a word of advice for you. You mentioned specifically they don't respond to flirts. I personally don't either. If a man cannot write something in his own words, I don't even open the email. I want a man who can think, who I know has read my profile and can make a comment on it in some way. Be creative and make a bit more of an effort and use a subject line that says more than "hi" or "good afternoon". Just like any good ad you have to catch our eye and attention. As for Cheryl, she doesn't seem realistic. Jeremy…I have heard from many men that the women don’t respond to an email. I do have a word of advice for you. You mentioned specifically they don’t respond to flirts. I personally don’t either. If a man cannot write something in his own words, I don’t even open the email. I want a man who can think, who I know has read my profile and can make a comment on it in some way. Be creative and make a bit more of an effort and use a subject line that says more than “hi” or “good afternoon”. Just like any good ad you have to catch our eye and attention. As for Cheryl, she doesn’t seem realistic.

]]> By: Jeremy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-493 Jeremy Wed, 04 Nov 2009 23:55:38 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-493 Peggy I have emailed attractive women my age and attractive women up to 7 years older and they still don't reply! The older ones don't want younger guys and the ones my age are just as picky as the rest of them. By the way, Peggy, Cheryl did mention on another of these current JMag articles that she gets emails from guys aged 25 to 63! Peggy I have emailed attractive women my age and attractive women up to 7 years older and they still don’t reply! The older ones don’t want younger guys and the ones my age are just as picky as the rest of them. By the way, Peggy, Cheryl did mention on another of these current JMag articles that she gets emails from guys aged 25 to 63!

]]> By: David http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-491 David Wed, 04 Nov 2009 22:06:51 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-491 Cheryl, The second date factor works the other way too! I dated a woman for 9 wonderful months, but I was not sure after the first date. We ended up wanting different things, but I would not have missed it for the world. It was on date number two that I figured out we had a spark. Cheryl,
The second date factor works the other way too! I dated a woman for 9 wonderful months, but I was not sure after the first date. We ended up wanting different things, but I would not have missed it for the world. It was on date number two that I figured out we had a spark.

]]> By: Daniel Remy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-490 Daniel Remy Wed, 04 Nov 2009 18:11:57 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-490 This is OUTSTANDING advice. Both my wife and my second love did not find me a "chemisty churner" or see any fireworks. What they saw was an attractive man who listened and was intresting when he spoke and smiled a lot. The first, my wife, became my great love for 30 years (widower). The other, was my partner for 6 years before life events tore us apart. When we did touch in a meaningful way and my passion exploded, the chemistry became a fire that endured many years. I should mention that men also can be too demanding even on a first date. That is as bad as superficial rejection. In both cases, a lady is left alone. You cannot control rude men, but this advice to give it at least 2-3 dates is a road to finding the right man. By the way, both of my ladies were extraordinary beauties, but they didn't seem to know it. That was my chemistry...a rose who sees other flowers as equally beautiful. This is OUTSTANDING advice. Both my wife and my second love did not find me a “chemisty churner” or see any fireworks. What they saw was an attractive man who listened and was intresting when he spoke and smiled a lot. The first, my wife, became my great love for 30 years (widower). The other, was my partner for 6 years before life events tore us apart.
When we did touch in a meaningful way and my passion exploded, the chemistry became a fire that endured many years. I should mention that men also can be too demanding even on a first date. That is as bad as superficial rejection. In both cases, a lady is left alone. You cannot control rude men, but this advice to give it at least 2-3 dates is a road to finding the right man. By the way, both of my ladies were extraordinary beauties, but they didn’t seem to know it. That was my chemistry…a rose who sees other flowers as equally beautiful.

]]> By: Sharon, Israel http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2009/10/give-spark-a-chance/comment-page-1/#comment-485 Sharon, Israel Wed, 04 Nov 2009 10:40:37 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=3464#comment-485 To Cheryl: It's a common symptom that when you enroll, you get mails like crazy, but as someone who's been here for like 2 years, I can tell u it's not always so, regardless of how foxy you are. You should really focous on the profiles, and screen them carefully too. It's a period of membership u should savor, and from so many mails, there has to be one you'd like enough to check out. To Cheryl: It’s a common symptom that when you enroll, you get mails like crazy, but as someone who’s been here for like 2 years, I can tell u it’s not always so, regardless of how foxy you are. You should really focous on the profiles, and screen them carefully too. It’s a period of membership u should savor, and from so many mails, there has to be one you’d like enough to check out.

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