Comments on: Erin and Ryan

By: Erin

Erin — Sun, 11 Apr 2010 05:33:13 +0000

it does say trite
BTW an update:

we had our beautiful baby boy on Jan.14/10

Zev Golan David

he is absolutely perfect.

By: Alex

Alex — Wed, 06 Jan 2010 02:04:29 +0000

You mean “trite”, not “contrite”. But congratulations.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Sun, 22 Nov 2009 00:21:37 +0000

I am the friend who hosted lunch and made the heart shaped challah. One thing I can tell you James, is that the bunch of us have a friend who she just continued dating because there was nothing ‘wrong’ with him, to say no about, but it was at least 8 or 10 dates before she realized she was falling for him. With my own husband, we were best friends who never remotly considered dating until it whacked us over the head. in fact, we had a TERRIBLE first impression of each other before we became friends. One never knows what is going to happen! The bunch of us also have a friend who met her husband when she finally decided to consider dating men outside of her geographical area. She ended up moving from NYC to our small Canadian city to be with him and is very happy. Good luck to you on your own journey!

By: Ryan

Ryan — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 15:07:10 +0000

Hi James, As I recall, my jdate profile was pretty sparse at the time.

Here is a clip:

“Dating is supposed to be fun. Nerve wracking too, but most of all it has to be fun. Never settle. Follow your gut. Realize that you have to meet a ton of people before you meet the one. Timing is everything, so don’t rush to meet until you are ready for whatever can happen. Be good to yourself. You’re single, not a social leper or insufficient. It just happened that at some point you looked at your life and decided to focus on you.”

I was feeling overwhelmed with the amount of dating I was doing. All those coffee dates gave me caffeine jitters! I had taken the pictures off my profile to nudge women into reading the words. Actually, I did ask anyone who messaged me to check my blog out. Writing about my perspective on life and love made it possible to help me understand how I felt about dating and getting older. Sharing these thoughts on a blog also helped women who read it get to see the non-dating life I was leading at the time. Dates can be like job interviews. The blog gave me a shot at sharing myself outside of the defensiveness that occurs in the dating arena.

What I realize now, is how much of all this is due to my wife. She saw something in me, and helped bring it out. Without her love, I’d still be in the dark.

You meet the woman who makes you forget everything you know, and who is strong enough to believe in the future. Find her, and don’t let go.

Ryan

By: Erin

Erin — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 16:14:14 +0000

Ben:

AND you were a groomsman in our wedding!

As well, remain a good friend to both of us.

thanks Ben!

Erin

By: Sharon, Israel

Sharon, Israel — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 06:43:13 +0000

Hi James,
I have no idea how old/observent you are, but I think you should definatly try Jewish singles events and keep being on this site, before relocating anywhere. Being around a lot of Jewish singles, is no gurentee for finding the one.

A lot of the MAZAL TOV posts, actually include couples from two different continents. One of my very best Israeli friends, who dated Israelis for years, came across a Jdate profile a few months ago, which really appealed to her although the guy, lived in Europe. They IM & talked on the phone for a few weeks, and then flew to meet each other. A short time later, they became engaged.
I believe, there’s also the heavenly timing factor, which has nothing to do with rules, numbers or statistics.

By: Tim

Tim — Tue, 10 Nov 2009 04:29:19 +0000

Erin, it’s great that you have given excerpts from both your wedding speeches. More importantly, for people like me genuinely looking for the one, do you have an excerpt of your Jdate profiles? It would be great if it could be published, as I really want to know what it was that attracted you to Ryan initially, about from his looks and the fact that he cooked dinner for you on the first date as you happened to his housemate. I have been on Jdate a long time and I would love to know what is a winning profile for women who could be my life partner.

By: Ben

Ben — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 05:48:10 +0000

Wow…

I am the “housemate” and was there to witness the entire weekend!

It’s great to here that she never did end up leaving

Mazel Tov guys!

Ben Kayfetz

By: James

James — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 02:46:55 +0000

Thanks for the tip Sharon but I live in Australia and these cruises and other JDate parties are only in the USA. Also, I know they are expensive, not that I can’t afford it. Another thing is whether it’s Jewish singles parties or trips/cruises, I know for a fact that there are far more guys than ladies that attend, which unfortunately makes it much harder. The likelihood of me finding a single Australian Jewish lady at these events is very limited, as I don’t want to relocate. Having said that, Sharon, do you think I should relocate to Israel where more Israeli girls are likely to want to get married than Jewish Australian girls? I learnt Hebrew at school but unfortunately I have forgotten a lot of it, but hopefully there would be Israeli girls who would be prepared to take on an a nice Australian guy and speak only English to him, assuming their English is good, like yours! Unfortunately, theren’t enough Jewish girls on JDate in Austalia.

By: Sharon, Israel

Sharon, Israel — Fri, 06 Nov 2009 06:57:48 +0000

Hey James, I can definatly relate. I have been on Jdate for 2 years, and have been searching for my beshert online, for almost ten years now, with no luck.
You should join one of the site’s organized trips/cruises, I myself have never tried it, but it looks effective plus it’s fun, so either way you win.

And one more note to every “Mazal Tov” couple out there: the increasing number of Jewish singles, as a wise Rabbi once said, IS EVERYBODY’S BUSINNESS. So don’t forget us lonesome souls still looking. You can really make a difference, just by having us on your mind & prayres.