Comments on: Nine Tips to “Give Good Phone”

By: Ephraim

Ephraim — Wed, 14 Apr 2010 20:30:43 +0000

The example “Oh, I just realized it’s Saturday and I didn’t call my grandma yet to say Shabbat Shalom!” is just plain silly. If it is Shabbat and you care about it a bit you do NOT call on that day at all. Now, why would your grandmother even pick up a phone on that day? Talk about jewish assimilation and extinction.

By: Kevin

Kevin — Mon, 05 Apr 2010 01:14:21 +0000

“How to Give Good Phone?” Sorry, hon, but this sounds provocative in itself. “Keep it clean,” you say? If you are going to give advice, maybe you should try to lay off the innuendoes.

By: Miles Trevor

Miles Trevor — Sun, 04 Apr 2010 12:17:27 +0000

Umm I don’t have landline. Does that mean I won’t meet someone?
i guess that is why i am single

By: sheryl

sheryl — Sun, 21 Mar 2010 08:43:36 +0000

Rachel, your tips are all great and sure to work!!

And, i have always tried to do these things at the initial phone call and would say that i’ve had great success in getting the “first date”–and have had many relationships….

but, down the road, conversations cannot always be quite so “fluffy” and light and sometimes you need to deal with real issues….
that is where it becomes more difficult……
because you want your partner to feel all those good feelings, but it can be difficult to express your needs in ways that keep those good feelings afloat, as much as one might try!!

everyone wants the euphoria and positives–but life gets in the way:(

By: Kevin

Kevin — Fri, 19 Mar 2010 07:50:51 +0000

This is all very well but in many cases the lady on Jdate won’t even give you her phone number, even if meeting for a date. It’s like she don’t want to be stalked by the guy if she doesn’t want to see him again!

By: kathy

kathy — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 23:40:45 +0000

Your advice is good, except the comment about getting off the phone becuase you need to call your grandmother or need to do somthing. That is so obvious that the person does not want to talk to you anymore. Better to say it is getting late and I need to go to sleep, or we have been talking for awhile, while don’t we continue where we left off on our next conversation.

By: Val

Val — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 18:13:04 +0000

I have made three contacts through JD all of whom live in my general (OC) area.

One meet for lunch, three grown kids, lots of drama; I paid for lunch. yikes! Guess shhe had no one to unload on and guess who was in line? Not hard to figure out why her husband left her.

The other two, one of whom contacted me first, suggested a meet for dinner at a place I had not been to…tried to schedule her twice, three phone calls and nothing further.

The last one seemed 50/50 and it never happened. Called her twice,
‘I’m busy, call me later?’ this after sending her my email and phone
number twice.

All three of these seemed a lot like high school nonsense and I got over
that many many years ago.

By: David Long Beach

David Long Beach — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 03:20:42 +0000

“Oh, I just realized it’s Saturday and I didn’t call my grandma yet to say Shabbat Shalom!” Are you kidding? What a poor example. This is a nominally Jewish dating site, a little respect for the tradition is in order.
Other than that, thanks for the advice!!!!

By: McCellan

McCellan — Wed, 17 Mar 2010 02:13:44 +0000

I will get a little philosophical here…

1. There are reasons why people get bored and want to end the conversations, there are reasons why people don’t call back… Don’t ponder upon them – move on.
2. To the comment where you’ve been searching for your prince charming, seems like all you’ve been attracting are ‘the ones that don’t want to get married’… and sounds like that’s all you want to do, not find a partner BUT to get married. What you get is the opposite – it’s all in your mind, and you attracting the opposite of what you want, so you gotta let go of it, stop thinking about it completely. Yes it has to do with time and luck, but more with your attitude and your thoughts… Read any book on “power of thought”
3. Sometimes even if the phone conversation isn’t going to well, don’t immediately dismiss the idea of meeting, think about it… you just never know. You got nothing to lose!!!

Have fun!:)

By: Simone Canada

Simone Canada — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 21:31:17 +0000

I must admit that I find some of your “give good phone” tips (even the name) a little bit cutesy, a little bit folksy, and sometimes a touch nonsensical (if someone never calls you back, how do you find out one – let alone the ten top reasons they never called, when you arrive for that first date? Or did I read that wrongly.

Still, Rachel Greenwald, you must be doing several things right to have matched so many people. – So, well done, you.