Why are so many women clueless about the lack of quality men out there? The answer is is very easy: you! Or more specifically, women! Once women began making themselves available for easy commitment free sex after feminism, men adapted. The sex is available, its easy to obtain, and you don’t have to commit. So, men act accordingly. Men have always ben driven by sex, but before femisnism you generally had to commit, engage in chivalry, be respecful. Meet the parents, make sacrifices etc…women had all the power. Women chose to trade this power in for “adventure” and “sexual liberation” without really considering how men would react. Well, here it is. This is what happens. Men are still men, we just adjusted to the new rules established by sex positive feminists and we do what we need to do to get sex. I wish woman never gave up the power they used to have, it has completely changed the rules of the game and has created a whole new generation of irresponsible men and promiscuous women.

I heard one poster mention that they waited 3 weeks to have sex? Ha, iif that is considered a long time, then well….women have a real uphill battle becuase these women will have to compete with younger, less promiscious women who naturally crave motherhood and companionship without the long sexua history filled with 3 week sex partners.

I was on Jdate for a few years. I met a girl on Jdate in my first or second year. We had 2 great dates, but at the time, she thought I was “a little too old for her”. We stayed friends for several years. Ten years later, we found ourselves hanging out in the Hamptons one day talking about dating. We started dating again in March 2008 and got married in Jan 2010. We are expecting our first child very soon.

I guess the moral of the story is you never know. The site works. One of my best friends met his wife at a Jdate trip to Puerto Rico. They are now expecting twins.

If there are details to be worked out, such as precise time and place, by all means, one or both parties should confirm. If the woman has any doubt or questions, why should she require the guy to confirm? If she is a responsible, self-confident adult, then she can call the guy.

I always make a date plan with “I’ll see you there at that time unless I hear from you otherwise” and it’s never failed me except for one woman who read and played by “The Rules”, which means she’s not worth my time anyway.

I’m happy to pursue a woman, to make the plan and even call to confirm if there’s any undecided aspect of the plan. But to expect the guy (and only the guy) to call and confirm only because of the woman’s insecurity is not good.

Grow up ladies. Get yourselves a calendar and a pen. Stop accusing guys of being commitment-phobes when you can’t even follow through on a previously made commitment for a date without assuaging your insecurities through a “confirmation”.

I have written a funny look at the ways guys think about dating and relationships and many of the answers to your questions can be found there. The URL is: http://bit.ly/RhEgp

Patti– yes, guys tend to check out the newest profiles first, especially when they have been on the site for a while. Perhaps you can update some photos. When guys do searches, they will stop and check out profiles whose photos are new.

Audrey– ending a first date is usually awkward. Kiss? Hug? Handshake? Who knows? Each date is different. There is no rule of thumb. If you like the guy, a kiss would be nice, but not a long one. A hug would be nice there as well. A handshake tells the guy you have no interest.

Barbara– you CAN contact a guy. However, most guys will have already checked out girls profiles. Thus, the “hit” ratio when a girl contacts a guy will be low. Keep your chin up, your dream man is out there somewhere.

Anne– there is no “need” to have kids. Its not for everybody. What you have done for your family is amazing. I have so much respect for you. You still need to find time for yourself. Go out more. It will clear your head and you will meet more people.

Cathy– the more specific you are in your profile, the less likely you will meet somebody on JDate. Many guys who do not keep kosher will not include women in searches that do. Take that out of your profile for a while and see what happens. You can bring it up in conversation on a date.

Joyce– I agree with you as well. Men will tend to make the first move if they are interested. However, age IS important. From a guy’s point of view, guys usually want younger women. I wrote all about it in my book (check it out, it will teach women many things about guys). You can’t blame guys for discriminating for age just like men have to understand women will discriminate for jobs or money.

Karen— you hit the nail right on the head. Well-written

Hava— find a guy that treats you like a Princess. Those guys have no respect for you, or any other woman. Good riddance to them.

Taylor–you are correct. Don’t call him if not interested. But if he calls you, be polite. Alway be polite! Don’t ignore him. If you pick up the phone, just say “I just don’t think we have enough in common.”

Madelyn– I did write an article about men. 10 tips for men appeared on this site BEFORE I wrote about women. Men need more help than women do

All the best, Brad

I understand being polite and thankful after a dinner date

with a gentleman. The right way to handle the end of the

date is to be polite, thank him for spending time, and for

the (hopefully) wonderful dinner and his company. It is

not necessary to have any further contact (if you do not

like him) with him, including answering his calls or texts.

You do not owe him anything. He invited you to dinner

that’s all it was, a dinner. When a man want’s no further

communication, with a woman, he blows her off so quick, her

head is spinning, so why can’t a woman do it? Life is too

short to deal with it, and furthermore, try to explain why

she does not like him. He usually wants to know why. I

don’t want to know why. I’m not begging anyone to like me,

so why should he. His EGO controls him.