Comments on: The Nerdy Guy’s Guide to Finding Love

By: Carol

Carol — Tue, 28 Dec 2010 00:25:45 +0000

I agree and i was put on a pedistal twice. My first husband did since day one. I got bored and i divorced him. He glad i did now and his new wife is not put on a pedistal but they adore each other equally. That doesnt mean he is not a gentleman to her.
My second almost engaged experience was witn another jewish man that put me on a higher pedistal. I broke off the engagement. I couldnt do it to him even though i was used to this.
I am sure he is happy he is not with me now. I am currently looking for a man i adore as much as he adores me and we both treat each other with the utmost respect.
Carolyn

By: Taylor Nederman

Taylor Nederman — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 20:28:21 +0000

Andrea, would you really want someone to confirm with you 8 hours after they already confirmed? Sharon, would you really rather a conversation about the weather than a conversation about something more meaningful?

I think a lot of times, we say we want one thing, and then really want something else. How often do we say we want someone to treat us well and then date an asshole? We want someone to treat us well, but we also don’t want to be bored to tears. At least I do.

By: Andrea

Andrea — Thu, 10 Jun 2010 22:17:59 +0000

“You are setting up a first date. Whether you met on JDate, or on the street, the situation is the same. Here’s someone you like but aren’t completely comfortable with yet, so the next step is to meet and talk more. You text back and forth. After you’ve set the time and place, she agrees and says “See you tomorrow!” What’s your next move? Nothing.”

I have to disagree with this. Everyone is so busy nowadays, that if you don’t confirm the day of a date, you could get stood up and blown off. My time is valuable, and it is the height of rudeness to reserve an evening to meet someone, then not hear from them while assuming it’s all systems go, only to find out you’ve wasted your time, energy and an excellent dating outfit waiting for someone who doesn’t show up. Meanwhile, you could have used that time to meet someone else who isn’t rude.

I happen to really like it when a guy re-confirms with me the day of a date. In this impersonal, rude world we live in, if a guy re-confirms with me, it shows that he is polite, respectful, has good manners and was thinking of me. It gets the date off to a good start!

By: Sharon, Israel

Sharon, Israel — Tue, 08 Jun 2010 05:34:46 +0000

I like this piece, ’cause in Israel, we gals have a problem: men don’t woo us. It’s a job of their’s, that they had forgotten all about in the last few years, which is annoying, mainly since coming on to them, makes them uncomfortable & doesn’t do the trick.

I disagree with what you said on the “be daring” clause. I wouldn’t want a guy I barely know, asking me personal questions on a first date, or judging me. It doesn’t come off as daring but rather as nosey & yentish, instead of mentshich.