I like the stated philosophy/advice to be “real” and truthful. I also liked the advice to go slowly (especially regarding my children’s relationships!!!).

However, it’s hard to believe these dating consultants’ claim to be in favor of being real and truthful, in light of this article’s quoted advice from them:

“2. Whenever a person calls to set up a first date, decline. Say you already have a date and suggest another day.”

I’m unsure what to suggest as a response if a guy asks on short notice for a key date time (for example, Saturday evening) and doesn’t provide an excuse for the short notice; for that, perhaps a white lie is appropriate. Generally, however, one can set boundaries without starting off a prospective relationship with a lie.

Suggestion: treat EVERYONE you meet in the dating world in the way you’d want your loved ones to be treated–and expect and require such treatment for yourself.

I mean no offense to the consultants, and would appreciate a post from them or the author with any clarifications.

May we all find/make excellent matches, and may we treat each other well along the way.