Comments on: STILL HOT, WHY NOT?

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 05 Jan 2012 00:30:52 +0000

Diana Amsterdam; You’re 63 and you said you asked the man who paid for your one date and then you kissed each other at the end out! BUT you didn’t! You showed him you were interested in him asking you out and when he showed interest in you, YOU did not NAIL the date down and at 63 and being a woman you should have done that. He is in the Hamptons and all you had to say was; I’d love to spend a weekend in the Hamptons with you, so how about next weekend’. And then you would have been in a relationship. But you chose to do what all the other women who responded do and their hostility to men shows in their posts. Women who know how to DEAL with men are married or in live in relationships or are in real relationships. ALL the others comment with the BS that appears in your responses. Several of the men made good responses but the women will never adhere to what they say so jdate will prosper as most on here only “play online”.

By: t

Fri, 22 Jul 2011 23:21:55 +0000

I went out on a date with this guy, an attorney. At the end of the date , he did not formally ask me out again, said something about his pool etc. He did get my number and called, texted all week. Never asking me out, but very happy to tell me his plans over the upcoming weekend. I texted him to not contact me again. A man should not be sharing his plans with you, but trying to find a good time to see you. He was broaching the subject, without coming out and asking. I am not having another texting non relationship. It was over within 5 days. Man cannot live on hope alone!!!

By: Slick Rick

Slick Rick — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 03:55:29 +0000

OK, here’s the deal. I can understand what happened here and why women are baffled by it .. and yes, it’s unfair, but here goes …

Mistake #1: You let him kiss you? Not at the end of the first date, but on the first meeting. He thinks you’re too easy — no matter how unfair that sounds. Yes, HE was the one to kiss YOU, but either you should have not let it happen or acted somewhat put upon; shy, etc. Now he’s thinking that was fun, but does she kiss every guy she meets for the first time?

Mistake #2: You indicated your interest in seeing him (at a specific time) before he asked you out.

Now he’s thinking your easy and desperate and you have been ‘conquered’. There is nothing else to achieve – as sick and unfair as that sounds, that’s how most guys I know think.

If you had not been as receptive to his somewhat brash advance the first time and not offered to meet subsequently, he might have pursued the relationship further. I know, we’re some messed up creatures but that’s how it goes.

Tip: Your 63 not 16 right? – as you said. It’s time to put the ‘tingles’ on the back burner a bit and go for the guy who respects you as much as thrills you. Then you’ll be fine.

By: Benjamin

Benjamin — Wed, 13 Jul 2011 03:52:07 +0000

And(???)what about the women who hedge their age, wear a band or diamond on their left “ring finger” though not married, post photos from years back, only want men who are “very very very very” (that’s “very” x 4) “financially secure”, have no interests besides fashion design, sometimes golf, and always Pilates, live across the United States or in another country….and frequent J-Date even though they have never been to a Synagogue in their lives….and are assuredly not Jewish. Let’s face it,there is plenty of sorus on both sides of the fence. All in all though,after the first email and first call, a date is almost always guaranteed. I find J-Date very worthwhile. It’s all about what you make of it and I make well of it, thank you, without ever playing around.

By: Eric

Eric — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 22:15:17 +0000

To answer Jan Barrett: I’m one of the guys posing in front of a “Sportscar”…well, it isn’t really, it’s a Toyota Solara but it IS a convertible: I was raised in convertibles from vWs to a Nash Rambler to more VWs and one terrible Pontiac Sunbird: a cheap cheap cheap car, not at all “impressive”. I have all MY hair. I drive a convertible, and show it, because I find it to be FUN to drive: I love the wind and sun; I also own a Toyota STATION WAGON: would you like me to pose with it too? AND a motorcycle I rarely drive. And none of that really tells you what I’m like to live with, to date, or to sleep with. Profiles and our photos are just preliminaries: you’ll just have to make inperson arrangements to really find out. Even if you have to push a little with some of us shyer ones…..

By: Eric

Eric — Mon, 11 Jul 2011 22:06:51 +0000

My problem with “older” women is either a true almost-total lack of sexual interest…or it’s there but they will not cop to it. I’m 68 and like sexual activities but how to broach the subject without seeming like a flaming sex fiend? It is NEVER one of the subjects on any dating site….except the ones for prostitutes. So why can’t Jdate and the others, add a topic:
Your interest in sexual matters: none, low, some, quite high, ravenous, ask me later?
Is that too much to ask?

By: Bill

Bill — Sat, 02 Jul 2011 01:13:45 +0000

Diana,

I am hereby formally asking you for a date. I hope you’ll go out with me because I’d love to meet you. We are the same age and probably have lots in common i.e. speak English and like Thai food. Of course, you’ll need to come to San Diego to meet me, but I’m definitely worth the trip. I lived in NY and L.I. for 20 years and that was enough. Hoping to hear from you soon. I’ll even give you my jdate profile name if you want to check me out. Let me know.

By: Andrew

Andrew — Wed, 29 Jun 2011 02:01:08 +0000

What you are up against, Diana, is a protocol issue.

You wait. You wait for the guy to ask you out, you wait for his call, you wait for him to pop the question.

If indeed he pops the question, after some wait that’s worth its wait in gold, he had better be prepared to do the waiting. The table has turned. He waits at the hairdresser. He waits for you to get ready. He waits in the corridor nexy yo the labour/delivery room.

He waits for dinner, and he waits for the plane with your mother to touch down. He waits for the Ever Eve to make her grand entrance from the washroom, where women always retreat to do some mysterious and secretive women-things, that men never even question or want to find out.

If he is a good man, he waits for his turn in passion, for the release, he very tactfully and with fullness of consideration waits until you get there first.

So I think you ought not to complain about the wait. People ought to be more conscious, in my opinion, of their weight, instead.

By: Jan Barrett

Jan Barrett — Wed, 22 Jun 2011 20:08:55 +0000

I think it’s all how you approach dating at an older age.I’ve been on J-Date for only a few weeks and I’ve had responses from all ages, largely I think because of how I described myself in my profile. I dated in my forties and never once did I go out with a guy in his sixties!…so where are all these hoped for “younger women” coming from?…I’ll tell you where…the older men’s imaginations! The feedback I’ve gotten from men was that they shy away from women who are looking for a meal ticket or to provide a life for them. I have a career and great friends and if a guy comes along that would be great…and if not,I still have much of what I want in life.Men sense the desperation just as I’m sure women do when some of them pop up on your screen posed in front of a sports car or wearing a ridiculous rug.If you have a positive attitude,great things can happen and often do.

By: Dianna

Dianna — Sun, 19 Jun 2011 22:36:40 +0000

1. Don’t ask for a date the first time. You are dating other men so another one will ask you out if he doesn’t.
2. Let him know that you are dating other men and you can look at your schedule and try to fit him in. Establish this on the first meeting.
3. Keep dating other guys, be relaxed and treat him with respect and be extra nice make hime feel really special.
4. Don’t sleep with him until you have a commitment. Mainly because you’ll be dating other men.
5. Keep dating other men. Because if he can’t see what a fabulous woman you are you don’t want that rubbish in your life anyway!