Comments on: Is it okay to date a man who is not yet divorced? http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/04/is-it-okay-to-date-a-man-who-is-not-yet-divorced/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Wed, 22 May 2013 22:10:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Jake R http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/04/is-it-okay-to-date-a-man-who-is-not-yet-divorced/comment-page-1/#comment-13521 Jake R Mon, 20 Jun 2011 23:47:39 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=21812#comment-13521 No all sitautions, not all people are the same. What may be adequite time for some may not for others. In my own case there was no emotional or physical connection between my ex-wife and I for two years before our separation. I was ready to date on day 1. Yet I have met women here on JDate that are insecure and afraid to be alone or haven't let go after 10 years of being divorced. I think that Rabbi Joysa needs to go back to school and learn a bit about people, before being allowed to give advice to so important a forum. She makes some streotypical statements that are very rigid and hyper judgemental, and frankly can be harmful to many a realtionship. No all sitautions, not all people are the same. What may be adequite time for some may not for others. In my own case there was no emotional or physical connection between my ex-wife and I for two years before our separation. I was ready to date on day 1. Yet I have met women here on JDate that are insecure and afraid to be alone or haven’t let go after 10 years of being divorced.

I think that Rabbi Joysa needs to go back to school and learn a bit about people, before being allowed to give advice to so important a forum. She makes some streotypical statements that are very rigid and hyper judgemental, and frankly can be harmful to many a realtionship.

]]> By: Lev http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/04/is-it-okay-to-date-a-man-who-is-not-yet-divorced/comment-page-1/#comment-12162 Lev Sat, 30 Apr 2011 06:51:45 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=21812#comment-12162 What!!! Wait 6 months or a Year? So what do we do in the mean time, Have lots of causal Sex? As a Separated and Soon to be divorced guy, the best thing to do is wait a month, then get out there and see what you were missing, don't get into any serious relationships and i'd keep the whole "Married" thing quiet until u feel the relationship becomes serious, for guys we could care less if a woman separated from her husband 2 months ago or whenever, its women who automatically assume, "omg your still in love with your ex!!" No, we separated for a reason, keeping the marriage thing quiet worked great for me, i would have never been able to date or see the majority of woman that i did if i would have said i was married. its the same reason why men wont label themselves as Divorced or separated on Jdate. What!!! Wait 6 months or a Year? So what do we do in the mean time, Have lots of causal Sex? As a Separated and Soon to be divorced guy, the best thing to do is wait a month, then get out there and see what you were missing, don’t get into any serious relationships and i’d keep the whole “Married” thing quiet until u feel the relationship becomes serious, for guys we could care less if a woman separated from her husband 2 months ago or whenever, its women who automatically assume, “omg your still in love with your ex!!” No, we separated for a reason, keeping the marriage thing quiet worked great for me, i would have never been able to date or see the majority of woman that i did if i would have said i was married.
its the same reason why men wont label themselves as Divorced or separated on Jdate.

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