Comments on: Questions With a Rabbi http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/05/questions-with-a-rabbi/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Thu, 20 Jun 2013 00:53:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Joel Diamond http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/05/questions-with-a-rabbi/comment-page-1/#comment-23131 Joel Diamond Mon, 26 Dec 2011 20:16:51 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=22522#comment-23131 I am now in the most serious relationship of my life at 68 years old...I am Jewish and she is Christian which is OK except for the fact she will not be happy until I get "saved" and "know the truth" - I am not Jesus/Yeshua-phobic, but I really don't have any desire to either get saved or know the truth and when she starts reciting the bible to me as to why I "should" believe in Jesus, I just don't have enough Jewish knowledge to answer her - my two questions are: 1. as a Jew why do I not believe in Jesus when everything she says to me makes sense? 2. how do I keep peace and carry on a 100% great relationship without this conflict getting in the way? I am also tempted just to "get saved" so that she will believe that we will dwell in heaven forever and appease her. Joel Diamond JDiamond20@aol.com I am now in the most serious relationship of my life at 68 years old…I am Jewish and she is Christian which is OK except for the fact she will not be happy until I get “saved” and “know the truth” – I am not Jesus/Yeshua-phobic, but I really don’t have any desire to either get saved or know the truth and when she starts reciting the bible to me as to why I “should” believe in Jesus, I just don’t have enough Jewish knowledge to answer her – my two questions are: 1. as a Jew why do I not believe in Jesus when everything she says to me makes sense? 2. how do I keep peace and carry on a 100% great relationship without this conflict getting in the way? I am also tempted just to “get saved” so that she will believe that we will dwell in heaven forever and appease her.

Joel Diamond
JDiamond20@aol.com

]]> By: Kathy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/05/questions-with-a-rabbi/comment-page-1/#comment-12901 Kathy Thu, 19 May 2011 23:55:05 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=22522#comment-12901 I was married to a bad man who was violent to me and eventually went to jail for his behaviour. I'm divorced now, single mom and happy and successful. I went on a date with a seemingly nice man I met on jdate.com. On the first date, he asked me questions about why my husband and I split up. Thinking it was better to be truthful, I told him why my marriage ended but added, truthfully, that what happened is behind me. He was friendly; date ended on what I thought was a good note. Next time we talked, he said that we weren't right for each other but he wished me well. Then he said that he had some advice for me. He suggested that I never disclose what I told him about why my marriage ended because most guys would infer that I'm "damaged goods" and not worth pursuing a relationship with. Is there something wrong with me or is this inaccurate advice?? I was married to a bad man who was violent to me and eventually went to jail for his behaviour. I’m divorced now, single mom and happy and successful. I went on a date with a seemingly nice man I met on jdate.com. On the first date, he asked me questions about why my husband and I split up. Thinking it was better to be truthful, I told him why my marriage ended but added, truthfully, that what happened is behind me. He was friendly; date ended on what I thought was a good note. Next time we talked, he said that we weren’t right for each other but he wished me well. Then he said that he had some advice for me. He suggested that I never disclose what I told him about why my marriage ended because most guys would infer that I’m “damaged goods” and not worth pursuing a relationship with. Is there something wrong with me or is this inaccurate advice??

]]> By: Bonnie Dietrich http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/05/questions-with-a-rabbi/comment-page-1/#comment-12871 Bonnie Dietrich Wed, 18 May 2011 16:07:10 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=22522#comment-12871 Seems to me that the majority of the above responses are generic, or very general or somewhat vague. The issue, as I see it in this JDate context, is that sometimes when people meet for the first time one person may be asking questions that are inappropriate, i.e., too personal at the starting gate. Rabbis Winkler and Bahle gave the most sensible answers, in my opinion, followed closely by Rabbis Maroof and Freeman. To me, all the others went too cosmic and did not address the concerns of JDate members. Seems to me that the majority of the above responses are generic, or very general or somewhat vague. The issue, as I see it in this JDate context, is that sometimes when people meet for the first time one person may be asking questions that are inappropriate, i.e., too personal at the starting gate. Rabbis Winkler and Bahle gave the most sensible answers, in my opinion, followed closely by Rabbis Maroof and Freeman. To me, all the others went too cosmic and did not address the concerns of JDate members.

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