Comments on: Psssst, Men – Beware of These Potential Dating Disasters!

By: Judy Cohen Wilson

Judy Cohen Wilson — Tue, 15 May 2012 23:07:15 +0000

This seems to be a great site. I liked reading the above. Now, I have to go because it is time for me to eat my dinner. Judy Cohen Wilson. juwilson@cox.net.

By: Bruce

Bruce — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 16:07:33 +0000

Very funny. As an older divorced guy 55 doing his second round of dating years I have found internet or not it is the same game. If a friend in the old days set you up based on “I would hit on her” and you took a chance it is the same as an internet I do not know what she really looks like or is like.

If your are divorced and so is she, baggage galore. If she says she does not have much baggage, has children and your game is a woman in denial..go for it.

Have some fun. I have met some really good women through JDATE if you take the chance of going out. Just don’t make it a 2 hour first date dinner. Escape hatches are needed for both.

By: jimbo

jimbo — Sun, 01 Jan 2012 20:30:34 +0000

As a guy in his 50s….I find that women in that age range still think they are the belle of the ball and are waiting for mel gibson to call at any time now.

By: Jason

Jason — Thu, 22 Dec 2011 04:24:05 +0000

Very insightful and funny column. Can’t wait to see more of your writing.

By: nan

nan — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 06:16:35 +0000

I know you’re a comic writer but I guess it’s the holiday time and it’s hard to celebrate this time of year without a mate. Perhaps in your next column you can address some positive experiences that are funny. Some goofy stories that show nobody was worse off for meeting the other person. It just wasn’t a match. Maybe being subtle isn’t a bad thing. This column was extreme. It’s not kind enough to women nor the men who date them. People who are single need comic relief but also some encouragement. I don’t know how often you write but sarcasm isn’t always the ticket.

By: idocsteve

idocsteve — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 04:11:26 +0000

Nice article.

I’d take issue with one point though. I don’t think it’s necessarily “wrong” to break up via email.. my last relationship had problems, at least I had problems, I talked to her about it many times and she just wasn’t getting it. Things came to an end, she left my home in a huff and after several days went by I decided it just wasn’t worth it. I intentionally wanted to avoid an emotionally drawn out hurtful conversation that would be nonproductive so I emailed her a long letter that I modified and redrafted several times to get it exactly right.. I sent it and I messaged her that I had sent her an email.

She called the next morning very emotional but accepting and we ended it like that.

I don’t think it was wrong, I think it was the least hurtful, most effective way to handle that particular situation. I’ve ended my last 3 long term relationships, some by phone.. so it’s not like I’m a coward.

Every situation is different.

By: Conni

Conni — Thu, 01 Dec 2011 02:50:48 +0000

Wonderfully put Mr. Miller. I actually dated a man who seemed SO great at first & was itching to move things along.. I actually had to slow things down because it seemed too good to be true. I even called him ‘superman’. Which was a big mistake because it inflated his already gigantic ego. Slowly but surely I noticed that he certainly was not Superman, and not even a ‘man’ at that. We could never even have a ‘real’ conversation as he was hardly ever available & acted all aloof. He called it off after a few weeks with a text!! Loser. It is not normal to go from so hot to so cold. I’m sure he has done this to several women before. Fortunately I’m dating someone really genuine now who doesn’t hide behind a million ridiculous masks.

People have to know that the truth is always the best way to go. It does take time to get to really know somebody & to get over your initial fears of trusting someone. A little effort & patience is required from both parties. People want instant results nowadays & it’s just not healthy or cool how people behave. It surely is well worth it afterwards if you put in the time & effort & are GENUINE.

By: Anna

Anna — Tue, 29 Nov 2011 15:39:56 +0000

Thanks for the article. How about educating men about manners and proper etiquette? It is such a turn off when being approached by ” hi sexy” and then if you reply that it’s not an appropriate greeting, you are being accused of either being one or not. huh?

By: Michael

Michael — Mon, 28 Nov 2011 00:47:16 +0000

Not a very useful item. Hell, all of the tidbits are apparent very quickly to anyone on an internet dating site. We don’t need a thesis to realize that someone who expects you to keep the bathroom door open for all bodily functions is in her own orbit….

More useful would be the more subtle and oft-missed situations, although I cannot bring any to mind at the moment.

Because, what is on my mind is the fact that I can write perfectly nice emails to dozens of women (over a period of time) and not get a single response, not even to say “no thanks.” Not a single one.

So, all of Mark’s points are moot, if you can’t even come up to bat, let alone get to first base.

Address THAT one Mr. Miller; we’ll worry about the “potential disasters” AFTER we get to meet a woman!

By: Lilyan

Lilyan — Sun, 27 Nov 2011 00:18:47 +0000

I am really a little afraid to even attempt to have a date with some of these men. I really think they lie a lot and so many are divorced and that is something that I cannot understand. They show pictures of themselves when they were in either the army, highschool or somewhere when they were VERY YOUNG and expect one to believe they still look like that. I am not that trusting of a person and I detest a liar, cheat and someone who loves themselves more than they can love or even care about anybody else. I see some pictures of these men on JDate that look like they belong in a nursing home and want a young “chick”, unless they are a billionaire without children, who would want them.

I like your article. It is so true.