Comments on: A Picture’s Worth a Thousand Words… http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/a-picture%e2%80%99s-worth-a-thousand-words%e2%80%a6/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Wed, 22 May 2013 22:10:39 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Anna http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/a-picture%e2%80%99s-worth-a-thousand-words%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-44241 Anna Thu, 12 Jul 2012 11:08:47 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=40831#comment-44241 While I agree with most of your points, "accuracy" is relative. For example, my face shots are perfectly honest, however, I don't have friends or vanity enough to ask to have my picture taken, so I couldn't take full body pictures for a long time until I got a remote control recently. My face suggests I'm skinny but I'm far from it, yet I did enter overweight and "Rubenesque" in my info. I expect people read that and believe it no matter what my face shots - a face says nothing about actual body weight, and whoever thinks so, is ignorant - may suggest. If I enter 175cm and 95 kg, then I expect people to assume some part of my body is way wider than my face. I refuse to be considerate of ignorant, rash, judgmental or otherwise thoughtlessly operating people. I'm looking for a man to have children with, so mental shortcomings that may be hereditary, are disqualifying anyways... Is it too much to ask of people to read AND understand info, rather than just look at pretty pictures? Do I have to do all the thinking for them? If someone doesn't go through the trouble of reading every letter on my profile before contacting me, how do I know they will bother to get to know me later? I scoff at people who believe liking someone's face or smile is enough and they needn't know any more than that. I met people who decided my pretty face makes me the right woman for them, and then they felt all bummed because oh gee, I'm an avid supporter of Operation Cast Lead whereas they are bleeding heart leftists. See, reading really helps. I know some people, men especially, look at pretty pictures and forget to read the text that's written all over the profile, but is that really my problem? I don't think I'm being dishonest by posting flattering pictures as long as I do state my body type. If someone doesn't know what "rubenesque" means, again, they missed out on education and that should not be my problem. While I agree with most of your points, “accuracy” is relative. For example, my face shots are perfectly honest, however, I don’t have friends or vanity enough to ask to have my picture taken, so I couldn’t take full body pictures for a long time until I got a remote control recently. My face suggests I’m skinny but I’m far from it, yet I did enter overweight and “Rubenesque” in my info. I expect people read that and believe it no matter what my face shots – a face says nothing about actual body weight, and whoever thinks so, is ignorant – may suggest. If I enter 175cm and 95 kg, then I expect people to assume some part of my body is way wider than my face.
I refuse to be considerate of ignorant, rash, judgmental or otherwise thoughtlessly operating people. I’m looking for a man to have children with, so mental shortcomings that may be hereditary, are disqualifying anyways… Is it too much to ask of people to read AND understand info, rather than just look at pretty pictures? Do I have to do all the thinking for them? If someone doesn’t go through the trouble of reading every letter on my profile before contacting me, how do I know they will bother to get to know me later? I scoff at people who believe liking someone’s face or smile is enough and they needn’t know any more than that. I met people who decided my pretty face makes me the right woman for them, and then they felt all bummed because oh gee, I’m an avid supporter of Operation Cast Lead whereas they are bleeding heart leftists. See, reading really helps.

I know some people, men especially, look at pretty pictures and forget to read the text that’s written all over the profile, but is that really my problem? I don’t think I’m being dishonest by posting flattering pictures as long as I do state my body type. If someone doesn’t know what “rubenesque” means, again, they missed out on education and that should not be my problem.

]]> By: Neil http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/a-picture%e2%80%99s-worth-a-thousand-words%e2%80%a6/comment-page-1/#comment-34411 Neil Mon, 02 Apr 2012 12:28:07 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=40831#comment-34411 Thank you! Especially for number 3. I'm sure you have a lovely family and children but I'm not quite interested in seeing images of them as I am of you as a potential date or mate. At least not yet. Also, I love dogs, but I'm not interested in seeing pookie, spot or goliath snuggle up with you. And yes, last but not least, having friends and co-workers in your profile pics is confusing. Why is it that most of the time I wish that the profile belonged to someone else in the picture!!! Thank you! Especially for number 3. I’m sure you have a lovely family and children but I’m not quite interested in seeing images of them as I am of you as a potential date or mate. At least not yet. Also, I love dogs, but I’m not interested in seeing pookie, spot or goliath snuggle up with you. And yes, last but not least, having friends and co-workers in your profile pics is confusing. Why is it that most of the time I wish that the profile belonged to someone else in the picture!!!

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