Comments on: How to Spot a Homing Pigeon – Part 1 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 24 May 2013 02:30:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: D http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-25191 D Wed, 18 Jan 2012 12:29:12 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-25191 I'm with Beth! You do not want someone who wants to get married because they are ready right now or they are feeling pressured. You want someone who meets you and realizes they can't live a day without you! The type of man you describe is looking for a wife so he can check the box now that he is ready to fit her in to his already established life and will marry almost anyone willing to settle down that fits certain criteria- making for a relationship of convenience. He is not looking for a life partner for lifes's awesonme journey! Guess it depends what one is looking for! To each his own! Mazal Tov! I’m with Beth! You do not want someone who wants to get married because they are ready right now or they are feeling pressured. You want someone who meets you and realizes they can’t live a day without you! The type of man you describe is looking for a wife so he can check the box now that he is ready to fit her in to his already established life and will marry almost anyone willing to settle down that fits certain criteria- making for a relationship of convenience. He is not looking for a life partner for lifes’s awesonme journey! Guess it depends what one is looking for! To each his own! Mazal Tov!

]]> By: Coach Amy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-25151 Coach Amy Wed, 18 Jan 2012 05:46:52 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-25151 Ye, we have to watch the generalizations here. Among my "Motivated" male clients - age does make a difference as well as temperment. One guy in his 50's took 2 years with his girlfriend. I had one male friend at 38 who met his wife and knew she was the one. He almost scared her off. I do suggest timeframes depending on your age. I am not one for rushing into a relationship (do you know the stages of romantic love? Beware the first 3 months to six months of the fantasy time! Then comes reality of who we are as individuals) I was engaged in six months and married withing the year at 42. We spent a whole year together - met each other's family and friends (good point from a comment above) and talked about having a family after a month of dating. (at 41 you can't beat around the bush!). Today, women may not be as marriage minded- so the guys are having problems finding women who are. If you are interested in taking my quiz, "are you motivated to marry?" visit my Motivated to Marry website- Coach Amy Schoen. Ye, we have to watch the generalizations here. Among my “Motivated” male clients – age does make a difference as well as temperment. One guy in his 50′s took 2 years with his girlfriend. I had one male friend at 38 who met his wife and knew she was the one. He almost scared her off. I do suggest timeframes depending on your age. I am not one for rushing into a relationship (do you know the stages of romantic love? Beware the first 3 months to six months of the fantasy time! Then comes reality of who we are as individuals) I was engaged in six months and married withing the year at 42. We spent a whole year together – met each other’s family and friends (good point from a comment above) and talked about having a family after a month of dating. (at 41 you can’t beat around the bush!). Today, women may not be as marriage minded- so the guys are having problems finding women who are. If you are interested in taking my quiz, “are you motivated to marry?” visit my Motivated to Marry website- Coach Amy Schoen.

]]> By: Avi Roseman http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-25081 Avi Roseman Wed, 18 Jan 2012 02:12:20 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-25081 Michelle, Obviously this was not the right man for you. The point of the article is not to jump on every Homing Pigeon, but just to be aware that mature men date for marriage as opposed to just playing around. Avi Michelle,
Obviously this was not the right man for you. The point of the article is not to jump on every Homing Pigeon, but just to be aware that mature men date for marriage as opposed to just playing around.

Avi

]]> By: Michelle http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-25021 Michelle Tue, 17 Jan 2012 23:08:24 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-25021 This advice is not 100% true. My ex-boyfriend fit that description perfectly. We dated exclusively and saw each other constantly for 8 months, but then he didn't want to even think about getting engaged because he finally said, "I'm afraid women change after marriage." I decided to move on. This advice is not 100% true. My ex-boyfriend fit that description perfectly. We dated exclusively and saw each other constantly for 8 months, but then he didn’t want to even think about getting engaged because he finally said, “I’m afraid women change after marriage.” I decided to move on.

]]> By: beth http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-24981 beth Tue, 17 Jan 2012 22:52:54 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-24981 are you serious? First of all, marriage track and baby track are not necessarily exclusive and the latter should not be assumed. do you really want someone who is "feeling pressured to get married?" don't know where you live but plenty of playboys/partiers live in the DC-metropolitan suburbs, if for no other reason(s)than job and getting more house for your money. i realize there are shades of grey for everything but these steps are such generalizations. are you serious? First of all, marriage track and baby track are not necessarily exclusive and the latter should not be assumed. do you really want someone who is “feeling pressured to get married?” don’t know where you live but plenty of playboys/partiers live in the DC-metropolitan suburbs, if for no other reason(s)than job and getting more house for your money.

i realize there are shades of grey for everything but these steps are such generalizations.

]]> By: Cheyenne Wentzel http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-23801 Cheyenne Wentzel Wed, 04 Jan 2012 17:56:39 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-23801 I really enjoy the article post.Much thanks again. Keep writing. I really enjoy the article post.Much thanks again. Keep writing.

]]> By: Michael http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2011/12/how-to-spot-a-homing-pigeon-part-1-2/comment-page-1/#comment-23251 Michael Thu, 29 Dec 2011 14:09:46 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=41761#comment-23251 Well, I guess that's what I am then...look forward to reading part-II. What about, introduces you to friends/family? Well, I guess that’s what I am then…look forward to reading part-II. What about, introduces you to friends/family?

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