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Quiz: Is Your Current Mate a Good Match for You?
By Janet Blair Page, PhD,
Author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to “I Do”

Take this quiz to help determine if your current mate or date is your best choice.

1. Would you say that your current mate has: 
A. most of what you want in a lifelong partner?
B. little of what you want in a lifelong partner?

2. Would you say that your date or mate: 
A. feels lucky to have you?
B. thinks that you’re lucky to have him?
C. feels that you’re both lucky for having each other (with a leaning toward feeling like the luckier one)?

3. Does your current mate: 
A. share your desire to eventually enter into a lifelong, committed relationship?
B. not share your desire to enter into a lifelong, committed relationship?
C. you’re not sure.

4. If you’re naked or sexually intimate with your mate, do you feel:
A. secure, happy, turned on?
B. insecure and nervous?

5. Do you and your current mate: 
A. mostly agree on the big things like love, money, and sex?
B. disagree about love, money, and sex?
C. you haven’t talked about it.

6. If your mate found this book on your shelf, he would most likely:
A. be curious but probably see it as a positive step for your relationship.
B. run away as fast as he can.
C. get upset or make fun of you.

If you answered all As, you’re on the right track. If you answered any Bs you should probably take a few steps back to figure out if this relationship is a good fit for you. If you’ve found yourself checking off lots of Cs, you probably don’t have a good grasp of the reality of your relationship (and it’s probably not a great one).

Janet Blair Page, PhD, author of Get Married This Year: 365 Days to “I Do”, is a psychotherapist with more than thirty years of experience in private practice in New York and Atlanta. She teaches at Emory University and has been in the New York Times, Glamour and on CNN, FOX, Good Morning America, and The Early Show. She lives in Atlanta, Georgia.

Excerpted from Get Married This Year, Copyright © 2012 by Janet Blair Page. Used by permission of Adams Media, an F+W Media, Inc. Co. All rights reserved.

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  • Schadenfreudian says:

    Do I get my jollies from point out the obvious…meh…perhaps. Yet, here’s the rather obvious: If there already weren’t “trouble in River City” (with regards to one’s mate) then isn’t taking this petite questionnaire an exercise in self-fulfilling prophesy?

    Yea, verily, Dr. Schadenfreudian hath spoken.

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