Comments on: The New Year’s Hangover: 5 Tips For A Successful Year Of Online Dating

By: David

David — Mon, 30 Jan 2012 23:35:23 +0000

To the author, Joshua Pompey, or anyone for that matter, can you please explain to me Kevin’s main point, why do stunning JDate brides have good looking husbands in the JDate Success Stories, as you claim the looks you are born with do not deny you success online?

By: Dear Mrs D

Dear Mrs D — Tue, 24 Jan 2012 06:10:55 +0000

As another JDate Expert/Writer and someone who married a nice Jewish boy, I think Josh’s suggestions are right on. Though I do think humor can over-take looks for a long term relationship any day, you have to be careful in a profile to still come across as authentic. Too much humor starts to sound like a schtick to pick up chicks plus if you’re not as funny in person, the girls could leave feeling duped. Most of my female clients have begun to rank PASSION first. Having something that you are excited to do and to tell others about, whether it is your job or a hobby as Josh mentions, can make ladies get excited about you as well.

By: Babs

Babs — Mon, 23 Jan 2012 00:38:40 +0000

Although profile pics are important, it’s that 1st meet that will determine if a woman will want to consider getting together again. It is NOT (just) about looks, not at all. As other ladies have said, along with the humor, it is character, gentlemanliness (is that a word?), kindness,eye contact – extremely important, especially if it is absent, and caring that count. Just as with women, self confidence is all important, in life and in dating. Develop it. You need to like yourself, or love yourself, before others can. Good luck to all of us. I’ll close with this quote I was just about to tweet: “To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself.” -Thich Nhat Hanh

By: Anthony

Anthony — Sat, 21 Jan 2012 21:42:17 +0000

I Noticed there are a bunch of comments since I last wrote.

Look, maybe I was a bit harsh. But what I’m trying to say is this. It isn’t ONLY about being funny.

A lot of guys go on dates, go home and say, well I was nice, funny, yet she still didn’t want a second date with me. Thats because you still have to make her want you. This takes a lot of skill.

I hate to break it to you all out there but being nice a gentleman and funny just isn’t enough. You clearly need to make a girl highly attracted to you also and I hate when people say that you can’t do this with a good looking women unless you have great looks.

By: Bari

Bari — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 21:00:15 +0000

Looks are not what makes a relationship. Someone who makes me laugh on the other hand…
What I’m looking for in a realtionship trust, loyalty, affection, intimacy, humor and understanding.

By: Sharon, Israel

Sharon, Israel — Fri, 20 Jan 2012 07:24:21 +0000

In regard of what Paul said, I don’t consider myself a “Stunner of a Jdater”, but I have guys compliment me on my looks. I think George Clooney is hot , but as far as my ideal match goes, all of the guys I have fallen for could only be considered as “Nice”, but had great characters & were smart. Most women are looking for a gentelman, one who truly gives himself in a relationship, is honest, dependable & loving. That’s what a woman in her late 20′s or in her 30′s, looks for & these are the qualities which would appeal to her & create a true attraction.

By: Paul

Paul — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 23:26:26 +0000

I find the argument between Kevin and Anthony fascinating! Can we please have an attractive JDate woman’s point of view that when it comes to marrying a guy, among other guys, would they rather marry a Brad Pitt or George Clooney lookalike with no sense of humor, or a George Costanza lookalike with a sense of humor! I would love to hear the thoughts of these ladies!

By: David

David — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 23:22:16 +0000

I would have to agree with Kevin. He makes a great point about almost every stunning JDate bride having a good looking husband. Would these same brides have married those same husbands if they were average looking with a sense of humor rather than good looking with no sense of humor? Also, I believe that Anthony is being quite harsh on Kevin. Like Anthony, I have used humor and got replies from attractive women. However, the point Kevin is trying to make is that whether these same women will agree and more importantly end up going out on more than one date with you. From experience, they end up marrying or settling for a more handsome guy, with no sense of humour. I don’t think Kevin is being bitter at all. He is just simply stating the reality. Sad, bad true.

By: Anthony

Anthony — Thu, 19 Jan 2012 00:19:11 +0000

Kevin,

This is simply not true at all. I recently had a profile created for me by someone that works with joshua pompey and i have received a constant influx of emails telling me how my profile is so funny with these women starting conversations with me. Its kinda nuts. I used to be in your boat. You sound a little bitter! humor is tremendously important i realized!

By: Kevin

Kevin — Wed, 18 Jan 2012 23:39:20 +0000

To the author, Joshua Pompey, this all very well in theory, but attractive ladies will reject you regardless of this advice. Especially with online dating, if you don’t look like Brad Pitt or George Clooney, they will reject you. I consider myself to be friendly and handsome but attractive ladies will still reject you. They say women are more interested in humor, but when it comes to the crunch looks will win! Just look at all the stunning JDate Success Story brides who have handsome husbands!