Comments on: How Long Should I Wait To Introduce My Kids To My New Boyfriend?

By: Nan Chandler

Nan Chandler — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 05:28:49 +0000

I agree with the Rabbi…. If the relationship is not long term then it should still seem normal to your kids to know that dating is dating and long term happens sometimes when both parties are ready,,, but dating is essential before “long term happens”. Also, if your children do not like him or do not like you dating, it is certainly better to find that out sooner than later and deal with it ASAP…not after you have a good thing going and then find ‘a fly in the ointment’ with upset kids… Also your children could really feel left out of the ‘mix’ of mom and her new man and his child,,, I say: Relax and let everyone meet and be normal together after you have 3 or 4 dates with just the 2 of you. Since you and your kids are very close they will appreciate being on the ‘ inside’ of mom’s new social life. Mom needs her social life just like the kids do… One more thing; not every person your kids meet at school become friends forever… And it is the same with Mom’s girlfriends and male friends,

By: C

Sun, 17 Jun 2012 09:40:55 +0000

Where’s the romance and courtship? I think that you need more romance at the beginning stage of your relationship. Bringing children along on dates does not sound romantic. I don’t think that your date should have his children involved at this point either. You need more alone time getting to know more about each other and being lovey dovey. But it is important that your children meet this man. They may notice a characteristic that you haven’t yet. When bringing children along it’s like do you like the person or just the children. Also, you need to know if your children would be against any person you would date because they still want their father. This would not be a good scenario. It’s too early.

By: Dave

Dave — Sun, 03 Jun 2012 19:28:41 +0000

At their age, a simple, formal introduction when he comes to pick you her for a date, for example, is not a problem. But involving him in their lives is not appropriate until there is a commitment from both of adults that it should be permanent. Just my opinion, based on my own experience of dating women with children.