Comments on: Why Didn’t My Amazing Date Ever Call? http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/05/why_the_silence/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 17 May 2013 23:42:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Artist-Oranit http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/05/why_the_silence/comment-page-1/#comment-40251 Artist-Oranit Fri, 01 Jun 2012 04:38:50 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=58891#comment-40251 I think it's plain RUDE not to basically at least email the person you went out with and let them know that it's not going to go any further. I never EVER want to put anyone through the agony of sitting there thinking -logically and understandably- that if we had a good date we are going to go forth and continue on this path. Now, I try and be as diplomatic as possible, but you must must must give the person closure. Don't waste their time and think that's it's OK to just disregard anyone's feeling by just disheartening without a trace. I think it’s plain RUDE not to basically at least email the person you went out with and let them know that it’s not going to go any further. I never EVER want to put anyone through the agony of sitting there thinking -logically and understandably- that if we had a good date we are going to go forth and continue on this path. Now, I try and be as diplomatic as possible, but you must must must give the person closure. Don’t waste their time and think that’s it’s OK to just disregard anyone’s feeling by just disheartening without a trace.

]]> By: Edward http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/05/why_the_silence/comment-page-1/#comment-39551 Edward Wed, 23 May 2012 14:02:02 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=58891#comment-39551 Believe it or not, this situation even happens to guys. About a few weeks ago I went out with a girl and it seemed like it went pretty well. We were out for a few hours, and I even asked her if we could go out on a second date and she said yes. So, I wait a few days after the date because I knew we were both busy and would make plans when we both were available. I called her and left a voicemail, no response. I wait until a week later, thinking maybe she just forgot or something came up, I will give her the benefit of the doubt. I call again, voicemail, no response till this day. It is hard to cut your losses, especially you seemingly have something with, doesnt end up working out. But you have to move on, I myself have emailed people since, and already am in contact with someone for a date soon. Believe it or not, this situation even happens to guys. About a few weeks ago I went out with a girl and it seemed like it went pretty well. We were out for a few hours, and I even asked her if we could go out on a second date and she said yes. So, I wait a few days after the date because I knew we were both busy and would make plans when we both were available. I called her and left a voicemail, no response. I wait until a week later, thinking maybe she just forgot or something came up, I will give her the benefit of the doubt. I call again, voicemail, no response till this day.

It is hard to cut your losses, especially you seemingly have something with, doesnt end up working out. But you have to move on, I myself have emailed people since, and already am in contact with someone for a date soon.

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