Comments on: What’s The Best Way To Attract Attention Without Being Too Forward?

By: chaya

chaya — Tue, 07 Aug 2012 11:00:33 +0000

Don’t be afraid to be specific about who you are and what interests you. Maybe you’ll get less (rubbish-) mail that way, because not everybody will like it, but the ones that contact you will be more suitable and interested in y o u (remember: All it takes is o n e, that is “right”) and chances are they are glad to have found someone who is on their wavelength. Somebody that doesn’t have any interests is probably a bore, or can’t be bothered to take the time and invest into their future relationship. Two good reasons to stay away…

By: Nancy

Nancy — Sat, 14 Jul 2012 03:47:26 +0000

Here’s another observation: most of the websites have a last logged in feature. If a man hasn’t logged in for more than 60 days, chances are he’s simply no longer active. It’s not you, it’s his ‘relationship status’ with the website;).

By: Nan Chandler

Nan Chandler — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 05:52:22 +0000

I say: Women should make the first move if they are interested… It is flattering to a man and he will respond… I had 2 men tell me they were already dating someone,,, I wonder why they don’t remove
their listings in that case,,, anyway: Make the first move and move on if you don’t get a response you like.. Don’t take it personally … I actually met 2 men.. One said he would call me and never did after we met. The other showed up and did not want to do anything … We met at a farmers market and he did not want to shop or eat… He finally admitted he did not want to meet at the market but why didn’t
he just tell me that and pick another meeting place,,, I don’t have a problem making the first contact: I simply write: Hi: I like your photo and profile,,, if you would like to talk/email please contact me at:
Then I give my phone and email. I sent one email requesting a recipe that he mentioned in his profile and he sent me the recipe but did not want to meet me! I did not like his decision but, so what!
There are many others to choose from! Go for it !

By: Henya Murray

Henya Murray — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 00:57:43 +0000

I always send an e-card or a flirt to get someones attention so as to introduce myself.
I figure, if they are interested they will contact me but I never thought that they might not be a member. Well, that’s to consider.
Well, most of these men don’t respond and I am at a dead end too.

By: Lara18

Lara18 — Wed, 27 Jun 2012 00:21:18 +0000

I suspect that many people on JDate are not subscribers. They may have been at some point, but for whatever reason, they’re simply hangers-on, checking out the merchandise but unable to do anything else but flirt, possibly because they didn’t renew their subscription or are just browsers with a basic (non-subscription) membership.

By: sarah

sarah — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 22:41:41 +0000

While I agree with Rabbi Singer that it never hurts to try, I think its a little insulting for Rabbi Singer to try selling singles his ebook while giving advice. It comes across as a self-advertising instead of helpful. I get emails similar to his all the time, and at the end, some relationship expert is always try to sell me whatever ingenious way he has discovered for dating and marrying.

By: viterbo

viterbo — Tue, 26 Jun 2012 20:59:41 +0000

I agree with you, I get those ALL the time and I just don’t know what are they expecting for me to do next, i just respond with a Thank you email, sometimes, that’s been the trigger to start communicating with some of them, but honestly I guess is our choice to respond to the ones that really got our attention or share our values and expectations as well.

By: Cara

Cara — Sun, 10 Jun 2012 02:24:02 +0000

The one thing I do find frustrating…is someone just sending a flirt message. Such as, I like your photo…you deserve a flirt. It does not give me any kind of information to reply to other than saying thank you. It would be so much easier if both men and women would just send a brief note of some kind that lets you know what interested them..or something for conversation!