http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/how-men-can-be-more-emotionally-honest-with-women-and-with-themselves/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Tue, 18 Jun 2013 14:48:17 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/how-men-can-be-more-emotionally-honest-with-women-and-with-themselves/comment-page-1/#comment-209681 robert smith Fri, 07 Jun 2013 06:34:48 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=107041#comment-209681 Yes, the good doctor has informed us men can be taught honesty by the women in their lives-to be more specific, emotional honesty. I suppose there is a distinction between honesty and emotional honesty. The problem here is that emotions come and go, and how you behave in a relationship can be better served by accountability and trust than understanding your partners emotions from one day to the other. By no means are emotions unimportant, they need to be expressed and respected by each partner--but are ultimately the responsibility of the individual experiencing them to manage. The Doctor states that when a women isn't emotionally honest, the man loses because he's deprived of understanding her feelings or meeting her needs. If a man was preoccupied with a womans' transitory and complex emotional life, he might just forget to take out the garbage or concentrate on his work so that he may contribute to the lesser needs such as food or shelter. Somewhere along the way, "meeting her needs" became a priority for men, forget that healthy adults are not emotionally dependent on another adult. Certainly the two together can be greater than the individual parts and rely on each other as a team, one taking up the slack if the other is momentarily weaker. Are we to believe that women find emotional vulnerability in a man to be a comforting and stabilizing influence in their life, "I'm sorry dear, but Bill hurt my feelings at work today, my emotional temperature indicates the couch and tlc instead of work tomorrow. yep." Yes, the good doctor has informed us men can be taught honesty by
the women in their lives-to be more specific, emotional honesty. I
suppose there is a distinction between honesty and emotional honesty.
The problem here is that emotions come and go, and how you behave in a
relationship can be better served by accountability and trust than
understanding your partners emotions from one day to the other. By no
means are emotions unimportant, they need to be expressed and respected
by each partner–but are ultimately the responsibility of the individual
experiencing them to manage. The Doctor states that when a women isn’t
emotionally honest, the man loses because he’s deprived of understanding her feelings or meeting her needs. If a man was preoccupied with a womans’ transitory and complex emotional life, he might just forget to
take out the garbage or concentrate on his work so that he may contribute to the lesser needs such as food or shelter. Somewhere along
the way, “meeting her needs” became a priority for men, forget
that healthy adults are not emotionally dependent on another adult. Certainly the two together can be greater than the individual parts and rely on each other as a team, one taking up the slack if the other is
momentarily weaker. Are we to believe that women find emotional
vulnerability in a man to be a comforting and stabilizing influence in
their life, “I’m sorry dear, but Bill hurt my feelings at work today,
my emotional temperature indicates the couch and tlc instead of work
tomorrow. yep.”

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