http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 17 May 2013 23:42:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/comment-page-1/#comment-59941 karen laukaitus Wed, 19 Sep 2012 02:56:55 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=105871#comment-59941 There is a lot to be said for being a true gentleman in a courting relationship. Women are on the average more prone to appreciating a guy with the traditional manners of opening doors, paying for dinner, etc. Times have changed certainly but this sort of thinking is never going to out of style. There is a lot to be said for being a true gentleman in a courting relationship. Women are on the average more prone to appreciating a guy with the traditional manners of opening doors, paying for dinner, etc. Times have changed certainly but this sort of thinking is never going to out of style.

]]> http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/comment-page-1/#comment-55441 Joe Sun, 26 Aug 2012 11:25:48 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=105871#comment-55441 Hi-I enjoyed your article. It was well written and thought provoking. I guess one missing element that you chose not to address is the even more critical question of: who is paying for what? I wonder in your example with the valet parking, if you offered to pay or pick up drinks before dinner? I would imagine if still in the dating phase you did not have merged finances? A lot of times, the "difference" is not in money styles as you suggest but rather actions by the guy to neutralize the financial contribution in the dating process. Perhaps in your example, the guy is calculating, "I'm going to be hit with $100 dinner bill do I really don't want to pay an extra $20." He very well may have choose the valet option if the dating expenses were more equal and he knew for example you may pick up dinner. I'm just throwing out there that there may be other factors at play then a true "spending style." He could have the same "style" or choices as you but his expenses in the dating game are different which naturally affects that style. I think a lot of spending differences emerge because guys realize early on that they will need to subsidize a lot of the "going out" expenses which can be a huge. From my own experience dating many many Jewish girls, it is rarely equal monetary contribution even if both partners are making comparable incomes or even after the topic has been broached. Hi-I enjoyed your article. It was well written and thought provoking. I guess one missing element that you chose not to address is the even more critical question of: who is paying for what? I wonder in your example with the valet parking, if you offered to pay or pick up drinks before dinner? I would imagine if still in the dating phase you did not have merged finances? A lot of times, the “difference” is not in money styles as you suggest but rather actions by the guy to neutralize the financial contribution in the dating process. Perhaps in your example, the guy is calculating, “I’m going to be hit with $100 dinner bill do I really don’t want to pay an extra $20.” He very well may have choose the valet option if the dating expenses were more equal and he knew for example you may pick up dinner. I’m just throwing out there that there may be other factors at play then a true “spending style.” He could have the same “style” or choices as you but his expenses in the dating game are different which naturally affects that style. I think a lot of spending differences emerge because guys realize early on that they will need to subsidize a lot of the “going out” expenses which can be a huge. From my own experience dating many many Jewish girls, it is rarely equal monetary contribution even if both partners are making comparable incomes or even after the topic has been broached.

]]> http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/comment-page-1/#comment-55181 Donna Fri, 24 Aug 2012 19:31:15 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=105871#comment-55181 Hi Good article, there is always a compromise. In that example the answer is simple, why doesn't he drop her off at the restaurant and go find a parking spot. Basically don't sweat the small stuff. Hi
Good article, there is always a compromise. In that example the answer is simple, why doesn’t he drop her off at the restaurant and go find a parking spot. Basically don’t sweat the small stuff.

]]> http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/comment-page-1/#comment-52451 JWE Wed, 15 Aug 2012 18:46:28 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=105871#comment-52451 I really enjoy reading these articles. They give great advice. I really enjoy reading these articles. They give great advice.

]]> http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/08/love-and-money-in-sync-or-at-odds/comment-page-1/#comment-52411 Mom Wed, 15 Aug 2012 17:31:43 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=105871#comment-52411 Fabulous article! It's well-written and contains good advice! Fabulous article! It’s well-written and contains good advice!

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