The Importance Of Taking Initiative: Avoiding Becoming A Serial Dater
Online dating is great, but it can also lead to complete exhaustion for many of us. Between the daily pressures of career responsibilities to family obligations to the seemingly endless amount of chores and errands that most of us must complete, sometimes we’d rather be in bed than attempt yet another date. Most of us have been in this position many times and by the time our date arrives, we often wish we never scheduled it in the first place! For this reason, we must do everything in our power to keep ourselves motivated and to get excited to go on a first date. If we are not completely motivated, odds are we will not be at our best, and our night will wind up a wasted effort.
The best way to keep your motivation and excitement for a first date is by taking initiative with whom we go out with. Too many online daters are guilty of being way too passive, letting the emails roll in, and only responding to those that contact us first. This may be easier since we save tons of time performing searches and emailing, but it is the easiest way to fall into the trap of becoming a “serial dater.”
Serial daters populate much of the online dating world. This is the class of daters that attempts to go on as many dates as possible, playing the numbers game with the mindset that he or she will eventually stumble onto the right person.
This will only leave you feeling exhausted, disappointed and frustrated with all the valuable time and money that you have wasted.
It is better to attempt one date with someone you seemingly have a ton in common with, than to attempt five dates with women whom you have just one or two things in common.
This is why we must take initiative and be proactive in our searches. Take the time to really be selective when it comes to the people you date.
For those of us whom are highly successful at online dating, and have learned to master the art of having girls email us first, the temptation to go on a date with every pretty girl that contacts us first can be overwhelming. In fact, it can be downright brutal ignoring one beautiful girl after the next. Still, this needs to be done if you wish to find long-lasting success, and don’t want to waste your evenings with the wrong people!
So take the time, take initiative, and go after what you are specifically looking for! This is the key to online dating success!