Comments on: Still Hot, Why Not?

By: Muriel

Muriel — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 18:40:27 +0000

Thanks for the lol, Diana, I really enjoyed it. I am also amused to see how some people just completely lack any sense of humor or irony. Frank, very touching and uplifting story, thank you, too.

By: Frank

Frank — Thu, 25 Oct 2012 05:38:56 +0000

Sometimes, levity is just what is needed in this challenging game of finding a mate/partner/lover or whatever you wish to call it. I sympathize with the women who feel that men their own age act, look, and simply feel much older. Sadly, I feel the same way about many women. They are locked into a an approach to life that is very rigid. They have stopped learning and exploring. They are more concerned with filling their face with makeup and fragrance, then their minds with new ideas, with art, with literature. These women are old… And they all seek a man who has a sense of humor. But so many lack that themselves. This article made me laugh. I appreciate that. Thank you Diana… Don’t get me wrong, I know there are women out there who feel as I do. Being over 55 or over 60 is very confusing. We don’t feel old. We don’t live that way. And we don’t even look that way. It’s just a number. And I, at 65, don’t want a younger woman. I want someone of my generation who FEELS as I do, about 35. Ironically, I am finding precisely what the women complain about- these women about sixty are looking for men between 45 and 58. Yes, women do it too. For me, the only thing about age that does concern me is finding someone who is in reasonably good health. I plan to live a long time. But life is fragile and I know that when I find the woman I want to spend my life, with, I will be there for her. My father is 99 and doing well. Is it because he met a woman, 33 years ago, who still shares his life. He was 66 then, she 60. They still love each other. Oh yeah, they didn’t marry. They live in the same condo, each in his or her own apartment. They just do almost everything together, from travel abroad to the supermarket at home. I didn’t mean to write so much, but the bottom line is that I am optimistic. It saddens me to see so many women complaining. They write that they see the glass half full. I don’t know. As I’ve told some friends. I see it empty every day and take great joy in filling it.

By: William Miata

William Miata — Tue, 23 Oct 2012 23:49:15 +0000

Once again a comment with both humor and reflection. The start of the column describes that ever present feeling of anxiety when we’re about to meet someone who might actually turn into a partner. And then the funny kind of cartoonish way of describing how we feel about getting older. Love your column because I love to laugh.

By: Gabby

Gabby — Tue, 23 Oct 2012 01:04:06 +0000

I laughed out loud when I read this. I hope that you have a great leaf peeping time. Thanks for the fun blog.

By: Mandy

Mandy — Sun, 21 Oct 2012 17:25:07 +0000

This is hilarious! Great stuff! Stephanie, you have no sense of humor! Diana, you’re fabulous!

By: NELLY

NELLY — Sun, 21 Oct 2012 02:47:54 +0000

What a pathetic, silly and depressing post. Putting yourself down and finding more female parts to hate …. now it’s teeth in older women. I don’t see older men putting themselves down about being bold, or fat, or hairy, or having droopy privates. How sad that there is so much self loathing and contempt by women, toward women …. and how sad that the culture says it’s OK to put yourself down and to have no self respect.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 19:46:15 +0000

The present day psychosis of women who live in a fantasy world. Men have ALWAYS dated 20% younger when looking for a relationship and women in the past realized this!

By: BrooklynD

BrooklynD — Fri, 19 Oct 2012 13:55:06 +0000

Well, this was certainly depressing! And, I find that there are a lot of good-looking men my age, but unfortunately, they mostly want younger women. So, I am forced to go five years older (because then I am the younger woman). I’m in my 50′s, and luckily still have me teeth, pigment, hearing, and all – but if this is a harbinger of things to come, I might just give up on the whole dating thing. And, at my age SEX IS one of the most important parts of a relationship. I’ve done the marriage thing, the children thing, and am very ready for the nonstop sex thing.

By: stephanie

stephanie — Tue, 16 Oct 2012 15:07:32 +0000

Thank you for the insult, @ Diana Amsterdam . I hope your profile doesn’t say you are kind or can look at different points of view, because clearly, in your own words, that would be a falsehood.

By: Diana Amsterdam

Diana Amsterdam — Sun, 14 Oct 2012 11:52:52 +0000

@Gia, thank you for summing up so beautifully the dilemma that women our age encounter, facing this new reality. I am so with you!! @Ruth, yes, I hear you, “immediate reactions” may no longer serve us well. Nobody talks about this age for women, and what WE encouner and go through, yet we are changing this (st)age for all the women who come behind us, as our Boomer generation has always done, so your comments are absolutely critical and key. @Judy, Hope you kept having laughs with your older guy and @Stephanie, I seriously hope your profile doesn’t say you’ve got a sense of humor because clearly, that would be a falsehood.