http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/11/tame-your-regrets/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Mon, 20 May 2013 03:59:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/11/tame-your-regrets/comment-page-1/#comment-89181 Margaret Sun, 02 Dec 2012 11:41:07 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124491#comment-89181 quite honestly: I think this advise (or bunch of advise) is unrealistic. If it is something haunting, then rational approaches cannot work because the haunting will silence your let's-work-this-out part. it will kill your desireable reaction. Here's what I found to work: if something haunts you into shivering and silent outcries of despair try to play it in your mind over and over again, until you numb to it. If this does not prevent the haunting thought or thing from popping up again, try to force yourself to stop that thought. For example it will come when you are walking on your own - take a cd-player or mp3-player or some appliance like your smartphone with audio-books and listen to them while walking. Re-invent walking alone as a good thing. I mean, I've been fighting this battle now for two solid years (a bit more) and I've put myself together again, but from time to time these waves still will crash over me when I don't suspect them at all. quite honestly: I think this advise (or bunch of advise) is unrealistic. If it is something haunting, then rational approaches cannot work because the haunting will silence your let’s-work-this-out part. it will kill your desireable reaction. Here’s what I found to work: if something haunts you into shivering and silent outcries of despair try to play it in your mind over and over again, until you numb to it. If this does not prevent the haunting thought or thing from popping up again, try to force yourself to stop that thought. For example it will come when you are walking on your own – take a cd-player or mp3-player or some appliance like your smartphone with audio-books and listen to them while walking. Re-invent walking alone as a good thing. I mean, I’ve been fighting this battle now for two solid years (a bit more) and I’ve put myself together again, but from time to time these waves still will crash over me when I don’t suspect them at all.

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