Comments on: Hits & Mrs: How to Have a Safe Online Dating Experience

By: Brian

Brian — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 05:11:41 +0000

This article oscillated between common sense and borderline paranoia. After a few emails, presumably whomever one communicates with obviously wants to get together. This will require a phone number which one should have little hesitation about passing along. It is unimaginable to me that one should fear providing a phone number, and it actually works in your favor. It signals to the person that you are serious about meeting up and want to take your rapport to the next stage. Continuing to banter back and forth on a dating website gets old pretty quickly, so if one is serious about actually dating putting up that number is crucial after three emails or so. This information does not compromise safety in the slightest, at least no more than one’s photo and email address would. The rest of the article is pretty much common sense. Don’t lend people money on a first date? I have yet to see that one, isn’t that called prostitution?

By: Mike

Mike — Thu, 03 Jan 2013 20:48:05 +0000

HEY Denise,

You were just on a MEETING and not a real date. Your expectations (along with your friends)show that you all lack class, expecting him to BUY YOU coffee and walk you to your car on a MEETING! You also messed up the opportunity for a real date. Most women on a MEETING want to buy their own coffee so they do not have to feel obligated and don’t want the man to walk them to their car for privacy reasons. I hope you and your friends enjoy being dateless.

By: Denise

Denise — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 15:41:49 +0000

A man on Jdate emailed me and after several emails, he offered his phone number.
We had a few phone conversations and invited me to meet for coffee.
We set the date three days ahead and I never heard from him during those 3 days. Even the day of the coffee date, he didn’t call or text to confirm the plan.
I arrived at the coffee shop on time and he was already sitting outside with his iced coffee. He stood up as I approached but did not offer to buy me a drink. I went in and bought one for myself.
We had a nice conversation which lasted more than an hour. He said he’d like to go out sometidid and then he didn’t walk me to my car.
Does this man lack manners, class and consideration or are my expectations of meeting a man who will protect, profess, and provide outdated?
My friends say this guy sounds like a jerk who in his mid 50′s will not learn to be a gentleman. One of my friends said I should have never paid for my own drink and I should have left within the first 5 minutes if he hadn’t offered me a drink.
What can you advise about first dates, first impressions, expectations, …

By: Mike

Mike — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 20:25:57 +0000

Good job of scaring women from being real and just remaining dateless.

Most of these same women work or live in a major city and go out at night where the main concern is getting home without being mugged or assaulted.

By: Dear Mrs D

Dear Mrs D — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 20:08:27 +0000

If you’re concerned about giving out your phone number, the easiest way to handle it is to ask the potential date for their number and, if you do not have a private number, dial *67 from your phone or call them from a Skype premium account that you create exclusively for your online dates.

When you are ready to connect face-to-face be sure to meet them in a public place with well-lit parking in a populated area. Make sure someone else knows where you are and when you’ll be back.

I have lots of other ideas in my new book “Spin Your Web”- you can get a free sneak peek on my website http://www.DearMrsD.com – Thanks for reading the column and keep your questions coming!

By: Janet

Janet — Fri, 14 Dec 2012 18:47:36 +0000

How do you give them your telephone number to talk and maybe arrange to meet face to face without compromising safety?