Comments on: What Can You Still Do This Year? http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 24 May 2013 02:30:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Leigh http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-112821 Leigh Sun, 17 Feb 2013 13:49:28 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-112821 Hi, Michael. I was wondering if you'd share what type of cancer your father has. My husband died of a rare blood cancer. Have you reached out for help to local agencies like a Jewish Family Service, etc? Hi, Michael.

I was wondering if you’d share what type of cancer your father has. My husband died of a rare blood cancer. Have you reached out for help to local agencies like a Jewish Family Service, etc?

]]> By: Len http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-109961 Len Tue, 05 Feb 2013 02:03:44 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-109961 My wife of 60 years passed away just five months ago. She happened to be an incredably beautiful woman for her age, youthful, upbeat and a great partner, mother, grandma and G.G.......... When I look at other woman, they fall so short of what I had in so many ways. Naturally, the first thing you are attracted to is physical. Now what do I do? I know it's never going to be the same, but lonliness is tough. For my age, I guess I look pretty good, but I'm still of an elder vintage. My wife of 60 years passed away just five months ago. She happened to be an incredably beautiful woman for her age, youthful, upbeat and a great partner, mother, grandma and G.G………. When I look at other woman, they fall so short of what I had in so many ways. Naturally, the first thing you are attracted to is physical. Now what do I do?
I know it’s never going to be the same, but lonliness is tough.
For my age, I guess I look pretty good, but I’m still of an elder vintage.

]]> By: Revital http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-107431 Revital Wed, 30 Jan 2013 04:44:29 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-107431 Hi , I am a bout one moth on JDATE , I am receiving a bout 20 to 30 viewer a day e mail almost nothing .... I fill that I mist a lot !!!! I know what is the problem , it's my smoking ! I don't know that to do What are you recommending ? Thank you !!!! Hi , I am a bout one moth on JDATE , I am receiving a bout 20 to 30 viewer a day e mail almost nothing …. I fill that I mist a lot !!!! I know what is the problem , it’s my smoking ! I don’t know that to do
What are you recommending ? Thank you !!!!

]]> By: rosy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-101651 rosy Mon, 14 Jan 2013 13:02:55 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-101651 I had a similar scenario and my mom passed away in 2006. I had the same fears. I found that one doesn't "get over it" but grows thru it and emerges "on another side." Recommend you read Life Lessons by Kubler-Ross and stay in ttouch with the friends you have. You do need to form new friendships. I'm looking for some, myself. I had a similar scenario and my mom passed away in 2006. I had the same fears. I found that one doesn’t “get over it” but grows thru it and emerges “on another side.” Recommend you read Life Lessons by Kubler-Ross and stay in ttouch with the friends you have. You do need to form new friendships. I’m looking for some, myself.

]]> By: larry http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-101561 larry Mon, 14 Jan 2013 03:07:23 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-101561 I am ready for love I am ready for love

]]> By: Britt http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-101441 Britt Sun, 13 Jan 2013 14:39:26 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-101441 Michael, It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. Being a caregiver can be so rewarding (especially when it is someone we love like a family member) yet it's one of the most exhausting jobs you could do, physically and mentally. It is very important to have support. Take advantage of respite programs or hire a visiting nurse. Go out and do something that you enjoy, whatever it may be. Even if you have the time to be taking care of him, you still need to take care of your mental and physical health. When you don't feel so overwhelmed by the real challenges in your life the hypothetical one (not having a partner) may not seem so daunting. In fact, once you are in a healthier place it may not be a worry at all. Michael,
It sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. Being a caregiver can be so rewarding (especially when it is someone we love like a family member) yet it’s one of the most exhausting jobs you could do, physically and mentally. It is very important to have support. Take advantage of respite programs or hire a visiting nurse. Go out and do something that you enjoy, whatever it may be. Even if you have the time to be taking care of him, you still need to take care of your mental and physical health. When you don’t feel so overwhelmed by the real challenges in your life the hypothetical one (not having a partner) may not seem so daunting. In fact, once you are in a healthier place it may not be a worry at all.

]]> By: Catmother http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-101001 Catmother Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:21:05 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-101001 Michael, I truly believe there is "a lid for every pot". I send you my best wishes that you will find just the right woman, one who will appreciate your need for family and your love for your father as well as the fears you feel which we all feel in one way or another. Hopefully, you will be able to meet enough people so that the right one will find you and you will find her. Michael, I truly believe there is “a lid for every pot”. I send you my best wishes that you will find just the right woman, one who will appreciate your need for family and your love for your father as well as the fears you feel which we all feel in one way or another. Hopefully, you will be able to meet enough people so that the right one will find you and you will find her.

]]> By: Catmother http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-100991 Catmother Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:17:51 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-100991 Carol, don't we all feel this way, a little or a lot? I sure do. Carol, don’t we all feel this way, a little or a lot? I sure do.

]]> By: Catmother http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-100981 Catmother Sat, 12 Jan 2013 04:15:48 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-100981 I am dating for the first time on JDate a year and a half after the end of a long relationship. I thought I was ready but I have turned down a large number of people or assumed they were turning me down. Then one of my matches pointed out to me that I was actually being courted by him! I had unconsciously selected out the parts of his email that pointed to "no" (they weren't "no at all, just differences we had in our opinions of life) while unintentionally ignoring his interest. This gave me an opportunity to re-examine why I was here on JDate in the first place and allowed me to open myself up a little more, to be more playful and even a little flirtatious without the roof falling in. I realized it was fear that was making me put up a wall I hadn't even been aware of and when I reassured myself that I don't have to immediately jump into a commitment to anyone--certainly not before I'm ready--I felt a lot better about enjoying this experience. The person who pointed this out to me is really a very nice person who wouldn't dream of rushing me--both the pressure and the fear was all mine. A great lesson. I am dating for the first time on JDate a year and a half after the end of a long relationship. I thought I was ready but I have turned down a large number of people or assumed they were turning me down. Then one of my matches pointed out to me that I was actually being courted by him! I had unconsciously selected out the parts of his email that pointed to “no” (they weren’t “no at all, just differences we had in our opinions of life) while unintentionally ignoring his interest. This gave me an opportunity to re-examine why I was here on JDate in the first place and allowed me to open myself up a little more, to be more playful and even a little flirtatious without the roof falling in. I realized it was fear that was making me put up a wall I hadn’t even been aware of and when I reassured myself that I don’t have to immediately jump into a commitment to anyone–certainly not before I’m ready–I felt a lot better about enjoying this experience. The person who pointed this out to me is really a very nice person who wouldn’t dream of rushing me–both the pressure and the fear was all mine. A great lesson.

]]> By: Carol http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2012/12/what-can-you-still-do-this-year/comment-page-1/#comment-99071 Carol Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:11:51 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=124961#comment-99071 Michael- It sounds like you are slightly depressed. Can't someone else take care of your father? Have you ever been married? If not, it is likely you spent too much time taking care of your adult family members. Time to move on and have fun. Michael-
It sounds like you are slightly depressed. Can’t someone else take care of your father? Have you ever been married? If not, it is likely you spent too much time taking care of your adult family members. Time to move on and have fun.

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