Should I Bring A Woman Flowers On A First Date?
On a first date, am I required to bring flowers or a corsage? Or can I just show up empty-handed?
It looks like you’re reentering the dating scene after some time, so best of luck on your new journey. Women today don’t expect any sort of gift on a first date. What they do expect is a man who is friendly, courteous, sensitive, considerate, confident, well groomed and put together — and most important of all, a mensch! If you’ve got those qualities covered, you’re an All Star and have nothing to worry about.
Having said that, I don’t know of a single woman who doesn’t love flowers — so if you really feel inspired, I’d suggest bringing a single rose or maybe a sunflower. Do not come to her door with a dozen long stem red roses! Keep it light. A single rose shows you’re romantic and open to new adventures. It’s playful, but not overbearing. A sunflower is guaranteed to put a smile on anyone’s face, which is a great way to start a date.
Bottom Line: You don’t need to bring flowers or gifts on a first date. If you feel the overwhelming urge, don’t go overboard. Keep it light and playful.
Best of luck!
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