Comments on: Should I Bring A Woman Flowers On A First Date? http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/ Where celebrities, experts and JDaters come to kibitz! Fri, 17 May 2013 23:42:56 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.1 By: Arielle http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-103121 Arielle Fri, 18 Jan 2013 19:20:08 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-103121 I love flowers! Every single boyfriend of mine has brought me flowers on one of our first five dates. It's part of how I know he's worth my time and energy. That being said, for a first JDAte, since you haven't met yet, they probably are a bad idea. You don't know until you see each other in person whether you will feel romantic chemistry, and it could create awkward expectations. For a second or third date, they are a great way to show that you are confident, you are definitely romantically interested, and you are just a thoughtful, great guy. Highly recommend it. I love flowers!

Every single boyfriend of mine has brought me flowers on one of our first five dates. It’s part of how I know he’s worth my time and energy.

That being said, for a first JDAte, since you haven’t met yet, they probably are a bad idea. You don’t know until you see each other in person whether you will feel romantic chemistry, and it could create awkward expectations.

For a second or third date, they are a great way to show that you are confident, you are definitely romantically interested, and you are just a thoughtful, great guy. Highly recommend it.

]]> By: Richard http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-102441 Richard Thu, 17 Jan 2013 01:37:35 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-102441 It's all about the delivery. If she wants to know how to recognize you, tell her you will be the individual with the Rose. It's not about what you bring, it's the message you want to deliver. If you found out during your communication that she likes a certain flower or candy, surprise her. She knows you were listening and I think the gesture is appreciated It’s all about the delivery. If she wants to know how to recognize you, tell her you will be the individual with the Rose. It’s not about what you bring, it’s the message you want to deliver. If you found out during your communication that she likes a certain flower or candy, surprise her. She knows you were listening and I think the gesture is appreciated

]]> By: Steve http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-101191 Steve Sat, 12 Jan 2013 14:50:39 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-101191 Dont bring flowers. Just be a good guy. Dont bring flowers. Just be a good guy.

]]> By: Donna http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-101041 Donna Sat, 12 Jan 2013 06:10:22 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-101041 When I started dating my husband he always showed up with a red and a pink rose. There was never a time I didn't have a flower on my table. Sometimes he arrived with a bottle of good french wine and of course the two roses. Later after we were together, he brought me a dozen roses home every week. Eventually I told him to slow up on the flowers. I was always cleaning vases or petals. Now since he passed away, when I hear a story like this I always think of him and the roses. Not many men will think of you like that. He nick named me the flower girl sometimes called me Zu Zu Petals. Romantic, it makes a nice memory. When I started dating my husband he always showed up with a red and a pink
rose. There was never a time I didn’t have a flower on my table. Sometimes he arrived with a bottle of good french wine and of course the two roses. Later after we were together, he brought me a dozen roses home every week. Eventually I told him to slow up on the flowers. I was always cleaning vases or petals. Now since he passed away, when I hear a story like this I always think of him and the roses. Not many men will think of you like that. He nick named me the flower girl sometimes called me Zu Zu Petals. Romantic, it makes a nice memory.

]]> By: Rabbi Arnie http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-100291 Rabbi Arnie Wed, 09 Jan 2013 16:08:04 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-100291 When I was young and went on a formal date, it was understood that I (the man) would pay. The women usually would discreetly exit to the restroom around check time and would come back after the finances were taken are of. If you're 30+, the way to go is to offer to split the check. If he's a gentleman (and employed) he'll appreciate your offer and thank you for it, but insist on paying (at least in the initial few dates). If he accepts your offer then fine, you paid your way and can leave with your head held high and a clear conscience. If he does pay, make sure you say thank you. The guy's a mentch. And stop thinking so much! When I was young and went on a formal date, it was understood that I (the man) would pay. The women usually would discreetly exit to the restroom around check time and would come back after the finances were taken are of.

If you’re 30+, the way to go is to offer to split the check. If he’s a gentleman (and employed) he’ll appreciate your offer and thank you for it, but insist on paying (at least in the initial few dates). If he accepts your offer then fine, you paid your way and can leave with your head held high and a clear conscience.

If he does pay, make sure you say thank you. The guy’s a mentch. And stop thinking so much!

]]> By: Barbara Kanegis http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-99871 Barbara Kanegis Mon, 07 Jan 2013 15:11:01 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-99871 When a man suggests meeting over dinner, how does a woman handle the check? Can I share? Lets split the bill? And does it matter if I really like this guy or don't intend to see him again? If I like the guy, may I say"next time my treat".....is that too aggressive.? Thanks in advance for your answers.. Barbara When a man suggests meeting over dinner, how does a woman handle the check?
Can I share?
Lets split the bill?
And does it matter if I really like this guy or don’t intend to see him again?
If I like the guy, may I say”next time my treat”…..is that too aggressive.?
Thanks in advance for your answers..
Barbara

]]> By: Remy http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-99751 Remy Mon, 07 Jan 2013 04:21:47 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-99751 I never dated anyone after meeting my husband when I was 18. That was in 1974. Since my Jewish parents raised me to be in a convent, he is the only man I have had sex with. Don't laugh. No was married for 34 years, with him for 38. G Truth be said I know that whoever I meet will like me. I am being honest not narcissistic. It's been my experience over the years. Well, what will these men expect of me? I am so nervous... I have my first date next week. Yikes! I never dated anyone after meeting my husband when I was 18. That was in 1974. Since my Jewish parents raised me to be in a convent, he is the only man I have had sex with. Don’t laugh. No was married for 34 years, with him for 38.
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Truth be said I know that whoever I meet will like me. I am being honest not narcissistic. It’s been my experience over the years.

Well, what will these men expect of me? I am so nervous… I have my first date next week. Yikes!

]]> By: De http://www.jdate.com/jmag/2013/01/should-i-bring-a-woman-flowers-on-a-first-date/comment-page-1/#comment-99721 De Mon, 07 Jan 2013 01:31:52 +0000 http://www.jdate.com/jmag/?p=132101#comment-99721 If this is a first Jdate, show up empty handed. A single flower can come off like one of those cheap lines a guy uses with every girl he meets. A bouquet is way too much and seems desperate. Your manner is far more important than gifts. Let her see how genuinely happy you are to see (meet) her. Take some effort to dress nicely and look as good as you can. Put some thought into planning the date. First impressions are more important than you can imagine. You are much more likely to get a warm response if she sees how important this date is to you, not the same old, same old, which is exactly what showing up with that flower will communicate. She's unique, treat her that way. Deb If this is a first Jdate, show up empty handed. A single flower can come off like one of those cheap lines a guy uses with every girl he meets. A bouquet is way too much and seems desperate.

Your manner is far more important than gifts. Let her see how genuinely happy you are to see (meet) her. Take some effort to dress nicely and look as good as you can. Put some thought into planning the date. First impressions are more important than you can imagine.

You are much more likely to get a warm response if she sees how important this date is to you, not the same old, same old, which is exactly what showing up with that flower will communicate. She’s unique, treat her that way.

Deb

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