Comments on: Why Don’t Guys Ever Make Plans?

By: Zehava Davis

Zehava Davis — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 01:03:12 +0000

Hello Ellen,
I also met a man last Summer on JDate. I was working in Italy when he first I am’d me. We corresponded for a month before I flew back to NY. We exchanges 350 emails, 245 text massages and logged 20 hours of telephone calls. By the time I landed in Kennedy airport we were like two teenagers in heat.
I am 65 years old, divorced, he is 70 a widower. We clicked immediately. We did “nothing” together better than anyone else. We spent magical weekends re-reading our emails. They were our favorite subject. We knew that we are living a miracle at our age.

Regardless of our euphoric bliss, he stayed active on JDate. In my mind, I gave him till the end of the year to get off JDate on his own. After that I was planing to bring up the issue.

At Thanksgiving he introduced me to his family. We talked about moving in together. I was on cloud nine.

A week later he broke up with me in an email.

Since then I found out that he went back to his old girlfriend whose activities he was monitoring on JDate while he was with me.

I continue to believe that not all man behave badly.

By: bella goldberg.

bella goldberg. — Wed, 20 Feb 2013 00:13:16 +0000

Well all you ladies out there, though l havent had too much succes with online dating, l have been given some words of advice from a relationship councellor

1. Dont chase them

2. You must appear all the time to be busy. And will try to fit him into your schedule.

3. Dont ever buy him anything!!

4. Speak softly.

5. Show your inner feelings to him. This will make him trust you and open up to you.

6. Remember this always – you are the PRIZE and it is for him to chase after you.

By: Cori

Cori — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 22:48:12 +0000

Ladies: whenever you are inclined to excuse or gloss over such behavior, I ask you to say “OBAMA!” Even though the President is running the free world, you better believe that he has time to call and/or dine with Michelle daily! No more excuses! Move on.

By: Ellen

Ellen — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 22:32:20 +0000

I have been with a man I met on jdate for well over a year. We both are widows. I am 65 and he is almost 75. We have been having a wonderful time. However he never came off the site. He has been on jdate for over 7 years. Last week he told me he wanted to see a woman he had met on the site. They had had lunch and he wanted to arrange another date. Before we were together he must have had 1-2 dates with so many women including 2 friends of mine. Also he says that he is 70. He is 75. So I threw him out. Any comments on this kind of online addict.

By: Rita

Rita — Tue, 19 Feb 2013 20:47:23 +0000

Yes I had contact with a man who knew where I lived and asked for my phone number as he had “lots of questions for me” and we had a nice chat, then suddenly he said he had to get off the phone to take care of something (???)and then when I sent him an e-mail saying that I enjoyed our chat, he said that I lived too far away, an hour’s drive (something he had to know in the first place)so there was not much point to going any further.

By: alex

alex — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 17:33:04 +0000

STORY OF MY LIFE!! I am in the same boat and completely over it. It seems like all the guys on this site just want to mess around and not anything serious. I have been on so many dates and its all the same BS!

By: Elisheva

Elisheva — Mon, 11 Feb 2013 08:41:35 +0000

Update from Baffled:

I had 4 dates this week and have another one set for next week (all different guys). My dating experiences have definitely turned around. What did I do differently? Nothing except not waste my time on jokers (guys who waste time and do not ask out). I do pay attention to my inbox and send out emails making contact when a profile interests me. I have also edited my profile but not to a great degree; same pictures. When texting or on the phone with the other party, I keep the conversation going in a way that asks the question, “When will we meet?” For many guys it’s automatic and they will drive an hour to meet, buy dinner and drinks; it’s a real date. For others, nothing happens. Go figure. Humanity.

I’ve also had great interaction and fun with guys from other parts of the nation. Although it’s unlikely we will meet, friendships have developed and we share our dating experiences. This has been enjoyable.

Regards,

By: Vanice

Vanice — Sun, 10 Feb 2013 23:30:43 +0000

Hi I really enjoy what you say about meeting,you have reason,
I think the same about ,
best regards
Vanice

By: Mike

Mike — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 21:11:43 +0000

Arnie,

RE: Your reply to “Baffled”. I do not think you understand ‘online dating’. The men showing interest to MEET, maybe learned more about her which discouraged them. Women must reciprocate initial interest if they want to online date. Many require a distance to meet and most turn up to be disappointments. Your advice to her will limit her opportunities. She should review what she does or maybe should do in the communication. The MORE prior communication, the better, as most MEETS never turn into a real date. The more experience she gets the better.

By: Mutzie

Mutzie — Wed, 06 Feb 2013 14:43:19 +0000

Rabbi…. Been on jdate over two years and it seems the norm for NYC is to not make plans until the last minute and then ask the girl where to meet. The guys on the site are lame. Why do they even bother?