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Dating Diaries: Recovering From Sexual Snafus

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Sex is always an adventure. There are so many opportunities for something to go wrong: positions that just don’t work, forgetting to shave your legs, clumsy first encounters. And for many women, men can be a mystery. I’ve been hearing about plenty of mysterious encounters lately. At first, I thought it was an isolated incident: during her assessment of a first date, a client told me the man was suffering from some issues “downstairs.” He couldn’t perform. Needless to say, she wasn’t exactly thrilled. Soon, I started hearing more and more similar stories! Some were too fast, some were too early, and some were too little. So, what’s a girl to do? Read on!

Too Quick!

This guy just couldn’t handle his excitement! After only 30 seconds of play between the sheets, you didn’t even have time to fake an orgasm before he finished. Keep your cool and resist the urge to furrow your brow and ask, “Is that it?!” Instead, smile and pat yourself on the back for a job well done. Instead of acting disgusted, treat the situation like a compliment. “Wow,” you can say, “I didn’t realize I was that good.” Take a few minutes to catch your breath, and then say, “It’s my turn!” If a man feels ashamed for finishing so quickly, chances are good that he’ll want to make it up to you. Play your cards right, and he could pay back that debt with a handsome reward! But here’s a pro tip – this time, skip the intercourse, and let him focus on evening out the score.

Unable to Perform!

Try your best not to panic. The more attention you draw to the situation, the worse he’s going to feel, and the more you’ll both suffer. Instead, kiss his face and neck, diverting the focus. There’s no rhyme or reason to an erection, and you’ll only stand to humiliate him if you interrogate him. Furthermore, one of the worst things you can do is to take it personally. Men get excited for absolutely no reason, and lose interest just as easily. His inability to maintain an erection doesn’t mean you’re not a beautiful and attractive woman. In fact, it most likely has nothing to do with you. So slowly segue away from sex, give him a kiss and suggest something else. “I could use a glass of water, how about you?  I’m pretty out of breath, let’s try again later.” Be understanding, be diplomatic, and don’t be rude!

Too Small!

Once in a while, you’re going to encounter a smaller-than-average package.  This isn’t the best surprise, but it’s important to realize that the old saying, size isn’t everything, is true! And here’s where you can benefit from the natural instinct of overcompensation. If he’s small, the chances are good that he already knows it. This suggests he’ll most likely work extra hard to please you. Many men who are insecure about their package strive to excel in other ways… if you catch my drift. The point is, you can’t judge based on size alone. Give it a try, and don’t discount the opportunity based just on appearance. If it’s not the thrill of a lifetime, experiment with different positions, different methods of pleasing each other, and don’t be shy!

Janis Spindel is just 1 marriage shy of 1000, and she has been in business for 21 years! Specializing in pairing up upscale clientele who are well-educated, sophisticated, attractive professionals, including public figures and celebrities, this self-proclaimed Cupid in a Chanel suit is no-nonsense when it comes to the business of “getting people married.” For more info on Janis, check out www.janisspindelmatchmaker.com.
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