My matchmaker mom once told me that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I didn’t understand what this meant until a few years ago when someone broke my heart. After what seemed like months and months of crying, I finally understood this saying. I realized that it’s better to have been in love and have your heart broken than to be single and never have experienced a broken heart.
“…The prophets of the Jewish people ordained that the Hallel be recited on special occasions and celebrations [like Yom Tov], and at times of national deliverance from peril, in gratitude for their Redemption” (Pesachim 117a).
Every year I have a love affair with autumn. The crisp air, colorful leaves, moody broody sky and my favorite produce filling the markets give me an incredible sense of well being. I also love Sukkot. I like the whole premise of the holiday with harvests and gathering, but mostly I like the fact that this is a holiday that does not tell me what to eat, but rather only where to eat it.
Let’s face it. Writing an email to a complete stranger isn’t always the easiest thing in the world to do. In fact, it can often be downright agonizing. We only get one shot at a first impression so we need to make it a good one. The following tips are the top three ways to avoid that all dreaded delete button.
This week is National Singles Week! Unbeknown to most, there is a specially designated week each year which celebrates singles as they embrace their independence and are recognized for their achievements and contributions to society.
During the festival of Sukkot, the sukkah is intended to be our second home. For example, since one would normally dine in the house, on Sukkot one dines in the sukkah. Because the sukkah is temporary, however, moving into the sukkah requires leaving behind some of our material comforts, settling for rather basic necessities, thus creating a more spiritual environment.
“…we now spend the money we each spent on JDate each month on the “JDate Bottle of Wine of the Month.” This past month’s was simply excellent. And I couldn’t be happier.”
For years we’ve been subjected to syrupy sweet kosher wines, wines so bad that we’d rather not drink at all. We ask ourselves why in 5,771 years they couldn’t figure it out already? Just look at the Europeans! Even the Americans got it together in under a century. And then we glimpse at ourselves in Aunt Silva’s bathroom mirror and ask ourselves the same question. What’s taking so long? Maybe if we’d settled for sweaty Paul as least we wouldn’t be alone.
My twenties involved a string of intense, moody, creative love interests, and a whole lot of pitiful drama. By the time I hit my early thirties, I was ready for something new: a kind, decent man whose mood didn’t shift as swiftly as the New England weather. So I shook things up by joining JDate. In spite of my Jewish upbringing, I’d only dated one Jewish guy before so I was pretty far out of my comfort zone. I expected horror stories. After all, online dating seemed like a recipe for disaster with too-high expectations and overly generous photos. But, in truth, it was lovely dating guys who came with a built-in set of Jewish references, whether it was discussing the merits of Jon Stewart’s Jewish jokes or favorite “Jewish soul food” recipes. In less than a year I found my husband on JDate, and we now have a six-year-old J-daughter. There was some luck involved, but I think it was much more about using the strategies below.
Now that the Jewish people have repented on Yom Kippur and, hopefully, received Divine forgiveness, it is time to sit back and relax…