Dear Rabbi Singer,
I recently met this wonderful man online, who happens to live across the country from me. We have talked extensively for a while now, and I find myself starting to have feelings for the man. However, he recently asked me “if we were ever really going to meet,” which made me sit up. The way he phrased the question made me think that maybe he’s not willing to make a relationship out of whatever we have going on. Which is disheartening because, even though he is not willing to relocate, I am. And on top of that, I would be willing to come out and visit him and was hoping eventually he might feel the same way. I don’t know what I should do. Should I continue our conversations in the hope that he will change his mind, or should I stop contact?
Confused in Dallas
For nearly 2,000 years, the Jewish people have been in exile. During this time, Jews have lived in nearly every country and under nearly every form of government, while, at the same time, maintaining their own laws as the basis for Jewish society. These Jewish laws (halacha) are based on the traditional understanding of the Torah by the great sages as set down in the Mishna and the Gemara (together called the Talmud), and later codified in the Shulchan Aruch.
There’s a Jewish saying that may come in handy at this romantic juncture: Man plans, and God laughs. It rhymes in Yiddish (“Mann tracht, und Gott lacht”) and applies even more to women’s heartfelt plans. Once my beloved and I had pledged our devotion, problems came flying from all sides. From his mother, a devout, cross-wearing Christian, the comment: “better a Negress than a Jewess.” From my mother, a refugee from Eastern Europe, disappointment and scorn: “So,” she said irritably, “a Jewish boy I see you couldn’t find.” She had a point, my parents had meticulously raised me to meet Jewish boy after boy; not only at years of religious school, but at the Ivies to which they had scrimped to send me. And yet, here was my situation: I wanted to marry a gentile who loved the Jews, and he wanted to convert to Judaism and marry me.
…I have to thank a special friend who recommended I try JDate in the first place…
As Thanksgiving approaches, it’s a good time to take stock of what makes you feel lucky. Chilly weather and more time spent snuggling under blankets- never far from a baking pie and warm spices can turn your insides to jam, especially when there’s someone close by.
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