The problem that many people have with mortality is less about death, and more about having been born in the first place. There is something about accepting having been born that is scary for many people. Take a look at how many people live their lives either mired in thoughts and emotions about the past, or racing ahead to a nonexistent future that is being constantly constructed in their mind. Anything seems preferable to actually accepting their present state of existence – right here, right now. This inability to exist completely in the present (rather than in one’s imagination) is another way of describing the state of not having completed one’s birth.
Here are 20 tips to finding a partner and keeping them. They range from rules to apply at your very first interaction to rules that will apply in committed relationships. You’ll notice that the “Dos” are at the end because (like with a date) you should never end on a negative note. Bookmark these DON’Ts and DOs and refer to them often.
As a divorced mother of two boys, I’ve been dating a JDater® for one month. He is a divorced father of a girl. He has no problems including me in his programs with his daughter; he said he would tell her that we are friends, and maybe one day he will tell her that we are more than friends. However, I’m afraid of introducing him to my children, with whom I have a very trusting relationship. For me it is too early to involve my children in something that is still beginning. I’m afraid that the relationship will not improve, and what shall my children think/feel then?
As Universal ponders who sunk their Battleship, and Disney basks in the golden glow of the piles of money The Avengers has made them, we enter June, a month that promises entertainment at the box office for everyone! From musicals (Rock of Ages) to SciFi Thrillers (Prometheus), and even male stripper movies (Magic Mike), June is certainly chock full of variety.
Remember the good ole days when secrets stayed hidden until you wanted them to be revealed? Then along came social media and smartphones, and then social media on smartphones, and suddenly the walls didn’t just have eyes, they had cameras, and a direct line to 500 of your closest friends in a cyber-second.
Whenever I write a menu, whether for home or work, I agonize over the sauce for the entrée. The sauce not only moistens the entrée, but it also gives the entire dish more character and heightens flavor. If you think about it, the sauce is really the most important part of the meal.
Einstein once said, “One cannot solve a problem on the same level on which it was created.” In order to transform this world, we need to be able to transcend it. In order to live transcendently (being in the world while at the same time operating from a higher level), we need to overcome our fear of death. Our fear of death keeps us earth-bound in the same way that someone who fears airplanes will never be able to fly. When we fear death, everything in this world takes on a distorted significance. Every loss is an ultimate loss, every deprivation is like the end of the world, every blow to our self is a fatal blow. That is because this world becomes all that we have, and that makes us hold onto everything with (pardon the expression) a death-grip.
Rarely do I get invited to a dance party. Folks my age don’t throw them. We’re too tired, too arthritic, or too dead. So, I was thrilled when my friend Luna called to say that her ex-boyfriend was throwing a dance party for his 66th birthday, and he said it was okay to bring me.
Dear Matchmaker Rabbi:
I try to write letters to women, trying to fit in with their interests. However, I strike out frequently. How do I improve my salesmanship? My social skills are wanting, and I am desperate for a match.
Finally – you’ve met someone on JDate! You went on a first date, and you kind of liked each other. Then you went on a second date, and you liked each other a little more. You went on a third date, and thoughts of exclusivity started permeating your mind. So, when is it time to take down your online dating profile? Should it be after a certain number of dates? Or, after you’ve had “the talk”? Maybe it should happen after you’ve changed your Facebook® status to “in a relationship” (the tell-tale sign for younger people these days)? Or, is unsubscribing from online dating site emails enough?