Your approach to finances, if it differs from your partner’s, can put tremendous strain on a relationship. So whatever your views are on spending money, it’s important that you and your partner are comfortable with the other’s approach.
Now that we’re in the thick of summer, there are myriad occasions to imbibe responsibly and irresponsibly (wink). As you know, when the wine gets flowing, things heat up.
Being a victim (at least for adults) is largely a state of mind. A victim sees themselves as helpless. And, when people hurt them, they see it as a personal targeting of themselves in particular. This perspective is particularly destructive because it tends to reinforce itself. The more one sees oneself as a victim, the more one tends to act like one and invite further poor treatment. How does one break this cycle?
I’ve been hearing from a lot of from women, lately, about their disappointment with the men in their lives. It saddens me that in 2012, so many women have minimal respect for men. Men aren’t totally at fault, though. Mothers often teach their sons to be good boys but not good partners, and women too often talk themselves into tolerating unacceptable behavior from men, resulting in feelings of frustration and resentment.
Serial daters (AKA confirmed bachelors) can be fun, charming, witty, and sexy. These men usually have dynamic careers and an extensive social circle, and there are thousands upon thousands of them across the country. They are well educated, and can show beautiful and intelligent women a great time on a date. But are they marriage material? Doubtful.
Aries, this month transiting Venus (love and money) slides its way on over into Cancer which happens to be your solar 4th house of home and family. Venus is all about what we value most. Do you value time with the fam? What about a partner that is close with his or her family as well? Take time out of your daily grind and spend time with the ones you love. By doing so, you will manifest a partner with that same vibration as well. Aries, since you like to take the lead, I’ll leave it up to you…do you prefer the Partridge family, the Adams family, or maybe your own Modern Family? Whichever it is, start by making things right with your own first.
If you’re having tsuris about narrowing down and choosing a first dance song, I don’t blame you. There’s, like, a bajillion songs in the world, and agreeing on a tune that’s also “appropriate” for a wedding is super stressful.
I have never been much of an athlete, unless you consider the two sports in which I lettered in high school great feats of fitness: golf and cheerleading. I did, however, prepare for my online dating life as if I was in training to win the gold medal of love (i.e. the perfect guy). After years of dating practice with many love injuries and disqualifications, I finally got to the finish line. If you are still in the midst of the dating rat race, perhaps these words from famous athletes can inspire you to stay in the game!
An important part of becoming transformational is the journey through the roles of victim, to victor, to transformer. Let’s look at each of these in turn:
What are the essential characteristics of a victim?
It’s hard to write a column about film this week without briefly touching on the shooting in Aurora, Colorado. One of the main reasons that people go to the movies is for an escape; they want to leave the stresses and troubles of their daily lives behind and immerse themselves in a different world. Sometimes that’s a funny world, sometimes it’s an exciting one, and sometimes it’s even a tragic one, but at the end of the movie, you get up and leave that world behind.