Navigating the many choices that you make on a date can often be like ordering off your favorite menu. From what to wear to what to say, matchmaker Janis Spindel has the recipe for success!
So you’re out on a date and having a reasonably good time, but suddenly that unwanted third party pops up: it’s that critical inner voice saying—oh, you know, the usual stuff. Suddenly, you’re not having such a good time anymore. Or maybe the voice comes up after the date, or when you’re considering making one.
Once upon a time, men actually dialed phone numbers and made phone calls. Women eagerly waited for a ring, anticipating the sound of his voice. Now, we have words across a screen. Now, women have to read and denote tone. Why did he write, “LOL”? Did I say something funny? If that was a joke, why didn’t he use a smiley face emoticon? After engaging in marathon text conversations (or ones that stop mid-way), we just want men to pick up the phone!
Greeting, JDaters®! Summer’s here, the 4th of July is nearly upon us, and if you saw Prometheus, you’re probably wondering what the hell happened. June was filled with some big hits like Snow White, Prometheus, and Brave. However, it was also filled with some notable misfires like Abraham Lincoln: Vampire Hunter, That’s My Boy, and Rock of Ages. In retrospect, who knew that hiring a bunch of actors who can’t really sing to star in a musical wouldn’t be a good idea?
We’ve come a long way from the days of letting the local yenta (most often your mother) make your matches. Thanks to advances in technology, there now are infinite possibilities to find love at the convenience of your keyboard.
Fifty Shades of Grey has now sold more than 10 million copies worldwide. Debate about the dominant/submissive relationship featured in this trilogy series is de rigueur in book clubs, health clubs, and back tables at Bar Mitzvahs, where women ask, “Do you secretly want to get handcuffed and smacked upside the tush with a leather crop?”
Dear Matchmaker Rabbi:
My sister recently lost her husband of 45 years and was thinking of starting to talk to men online just two weeks after his death. Prior to that, they were happily married (according to her own account and everyone who knew them). This seems way, way too fast to me. What is your opinion?
― Concerned Sister
One of the things that makes living a meaningful, transformative life difficult is that we live in an upside-down world. What does this mean? Let me give you an example: I recently watched a true crime show where a woman was found murdered in her home. The woman herself, a loving single mother, was completely blameless. The only clue of any suspicious activity was a neighbor who had seen a strange vehicle parked in an empty field behind the woman’s house the night she was killed.
It’s easy to feel like there is all the time in the world when it comes to dating. And while no one actually runs out of time to fall in love and get married, you can become circumstantially depressed if you feel you are running out of time. So, please don’t even have another cup of coffee with someone if you know deep down they are wrong for you.
If I didn’t know better, I’d assume Mark Zuckerberg was an evil genius that wanted to ruin dating forever. He claims he created Facebook so we could connect, but was his master plan to help us stalk significant others and poke our exes? If so, he has accomplished his (alleged) goal!