Aries, this month transiting Venus (love and money) slides its way on over into Cancer which happens to be your solar 4th house of home and family. Venus is all about what we value most. Do you value time with the fam? What about a partner that is close with his or her family as well? Take time out of your daily grind and spend time with the ones you love. By doing so, you will manifest a partner with that same vibration as well. Aries, since you like to take the lead, I’ll leave it up to you…do you prefer the Partridge family, the Adams family, or maybe your own Modern Family? Whichever it is, start by making things right with your own first.
If you’re having tsuris about narrowing down and choosing a first dance song, I don’t blame you. There’s, like, a bajillion songs in the world, and agreeing on a tune that’s also “appropriate” for a wedding is super stressful.
I have never been much of an athlete, unless you consider the two sports in which I lettered in high school great feats of fitness: golf and cheerleading. I did, however, prepare for my online dating life as if I was in training to win the gold medal of love (i.e. the perfect guy). After years of dating practice with many love injuries and disqualifications, I finally got to the finish line. If you are still in the midst of the dating rat race, perhaps these words from famous athletes can inspire you to stay in the game!
An important part of becoming transformational is the journey through the roles of victim, to victor, to transformer. Let’s look at each of these in turn:
What are the essential characteristics of a victim?
It’s hard to write a column about film this week without briefly touching on the shooting in Aurora, Colorado. One of the main reasons that people go to the movies is for an escape; they want to leave the stresses and troubles of their daily lives behind and immerse themselves in a different world. Sometimes that’s a funny world, sometimes it’s an exciting one, and sometimes it’s even a tragic one, but at the end of the movie, you get up and leave that world behind.
Behavioral therapy starts with just one step, followed by many repeats. Substitute your unwanted, self-destructive dating or love habits with behaviors that will work for you.
Most women fear divorce more than anything, but what if divorce isn’t even in the cards because your new beau wouldn’t ever dream of getting married? If you’re like every other marriage-minded woman, you’re tired of being single and you’re looking for love. It’s thrilling to want to jump into a relationship with a new man, but make sure you don’t get stuck with a man who will NEVER put a ring on your finger! Here’s how to spot these pesky time-wasting bachelors, the men who don’t want to give up the single life.
Some might say I’m an impulsive person. I get an idea, and I act on it. Case in point: Quitting my former job and starting A Little Nudge. (Perhaps that was more of a well-researched impulsion!) Basically, when I want something, I go for it. And yet, I’ve learned that in dating, slow and steady wins the race.
Dear Matchmaker Rabbi:
I’m thinking of joining JDate, but I’m only partly Jewish in my ancestry. I was sent to a Jewish kindergarten, but had no other Jewish education. Since I’m not 100% Jewish, is it wrong to date Jewish girls, even if I tell them the truth on the first date?
I would have no problem committing to converting (which as I understand is a long process). And I would feel funny dating a non-Jewish girl. What do you think?
― Only Sort of Jewish
Compared to most dating coaches, I have relatively few rules. However, of the rules that I do have in my eBook, there is one that’s key to follow if you have any hope of your first date turning into something long term. The rule? Set a drinking limit BEFORE you head out on a date. It’s easy to feel a connection with someone after a few gin and tonics, but you also have to have a connection in the sobering light of day if you really want a successful relationship.