We’ve come a long way from the days of letting the local yenta (most often your mother) make your matches. Thanks to advances in technology, there now are infinite possibilities to find love at the convenience of your keyboard.
Fifty Shades of Grey has now sold more than 10 million copies worldwide. Debate about the dominant/submissive relationship featured in this trilogy series is de rigueur in book clubs, health clubs, and back tables at Bar Mitzvahs, where women ask, “Do you secretly want to get handcuffed and smacked upside the tush with a leather crop?”
Dear Matchmaker Rabbi:
My sister recently lost her husband of 45 years and was thinking of starting to talk to men online just two weeks after his death. Prior to that, they were happily married (according to her own account and everyone who knew them). This seems way, way too fast to me. What is your opinion?
― Concerned Sister
One of the things that makes living a meaningful, transformative life difficult is that we live in an upside-down world. What does this mean? Let me give you an example: I recently watched a true crime show where a woman was found murdered in her home. The woman herself, a loving single mother, was completely blameless. The only clue of any suspicious activity was a neighbor who had seen a strange vehicle parked in an empty field behind the woman’s house the night she was killed.
It’s easy to feel like there is all the time in the world when it comes to dating. And while no one actually runs out of time to fall in love and get married, you can become circumstantially depressed if you feel you are running out of time. So, please don’t even have another cup of coffee with someone if you know deep down they are wrong for you.
If I didn’t know better, I’d assume Mark Zuckerberg was an evil genius that wanted to ruin dating forever. He claims he created Facebook so we could connect, but was his master plan to help us stalk significant others and poke our exes? If so, he has accomplished his (alleged) goal!
Sometimes, simple is the most sophisticated. For summer desserts, I am looking for fresh flavors, bright colors and less time in the kitchen. A sabayon is a French sauce (zabaglione for Italian version) of eggs, sugar and wine that is whisked to a frothy, creamy consistency. It is elegant spooned over fresh fruit or a simple pound cake. I like to pile the fruit into a beautiful wine glass and layer the fruit and sabayon. Serve immediately or chill for several hours.
In this day and age, sex runs rampant throughout pop culture. There are TV shows (Sex and the City was a personal favorite), songs, and plenty of movies that go into far more detail than I care to.
I start every meal with a salad. I love the textures and flavors. I also like the way the vinaigrette plays off of each ingredient and makes the flavors POP. The trick to keeping salad interesting is to add a variety of textures and flavors.
I used to have a rigid “no video chat” policy for my clients. My theory was that you never present yourself in a video chat the way you would during an in-person chat. Your hair and makeup is half-done, the lighting is all wrong, you don’t turn off your cellphone, your roommate barges in looking to borrow toothpaste and you’re stone cold sober, nervous and stuttering. Sounds like an excellent way to make a first impression, right?