Someone who lives a transformational life lives according to the idea that humanity is at heart interconnected and unified. We are all a part of one family – or on an even deeper level, different parts of a single organism. As such, we care about one another and feel a sense of responsibility for one another.
Living transformationally means that one is always aware of the status, issues and needs of everyone around you. There is no such thing as being oblivious. When walking down the street, one is aware of who is passing. When sitting in a subway car, one is always aware of who has gotten on. There is a situational awareness that is similar to that of a soldier on duty – although the mission is slightly different. One never drops this level of awareness – it becomes habitual. The universe may not ask anything of us in that moment – but if it should, will you notice? Will you be ready?
The elusive Homing Pigeon is a man who reeks of wanting to get married and can be spotted from a mile away. The Homing Pigeon is your perfect catch if you’re looking for a serious relationship. This rare breed can be spotted by looking for the following signs: he has married siblings, is a homeowner, lives in the suburbs, has a satisfying career, is constantly talking about his nieces/nephews and he values exclusivity.
Want to learn more? Read on to determine if he’s just looking to play around, or to put a very expensive ring on your finger!
Love isn’t just about finding someone. It’s about keeping them. If you are only focusing on the finding, and not on the keeping, how can you ever hope to achieve a lasting partnership, which is what you profess to want?
Relationships don’t fail. It’s relationship skills that fail. Skills can be learned. Are you actively studying and learning those skills now? Well, you should be.
Patti Stanger, known to most as “The Millionaire Matchmaker” from Bravo’s hit TV series, has a lot of rules. She’s cited as having 11 basic commandments*, most of which are very reasonable: keep your commitments, don’t talk about your ex, don’t drink too much, etc.
However, her one cardinal rule is no sex before monogamy. And when we’re talking sex, we’re talking all forms of it – I won’t get graphic, you know what I mean. I have my own rules about sex but for me, Patti’s approach (as with most of her advice) starts off in a good place, but takes things to the extreme. Monogamy is a heavy word and while sex can be a heavy thing, putting too much emphasis on it, and whether or not you’re having it, can cause undue stress in a relationship. The rule I give my clients is…
What is the most important value? The value to end all values? What is of supreme worth in this world? If you had to choose one moral or ethical principle or virtue that would guide your life and the lives of others, what would it be? Some might say Charity. Some might say Tolerance. Some might say Love. Some might say Justice. Some might say Mercy. Some might say Truth. The list goes on. Each one valuable, each one worthy. But can they claim the right to be called the Supreme Value?
We all know that Jews are not exactly hard to find in Hollywood, but that doesn’t mean Judaism’s easy to find on the screen. While I’m hardly the most ethnocentric Jew on the block, we all know that it’s fun to play the “did you know so-and-so was Jewish” game. And let’s face it, movies and dating are inextricably linked.
Read on to discover The Chosen Feature — movie ideas you may want to consider renting next time you and your JDate sweetheart decide to spend a night in rather than hitting the town. Plus, see how this month’s new releases rate on the JScale, a way of rating how Jewish a film is, based on how many Jews were involved in creating it, acting it out and bringing it to the screen! So will the JScale tell you if a film’s good? Nope. Just whether it’s Jew-ish.
There is nothing more fragrant and sensuous than roasted pineapple. I am sort of iffy about pineapple when sliced in a fruit salad, but when pineapple is bathed and basted in dark rum and vanilla, it becomes a sweet and exotic treat. Roasted pineapple gives off its juices which are thick and perfumed with pineapple essence and a pureed banana. For all the non-bakers out there, this dessert is for you. Simple and requiring minimal kitchen skills, roasted pineapple will make you look like a dessert genius. Save the juices and drizzle on ice cream or pound cake.
Columnist Diana Amsterdam muses on the state of affairs (or lack thereof) for women over 50 in our culture today. Amsterdam says women of a certain age are just as beautiful, amorous and confident as ever. Still, they must meet new challenges when it comes to finding love and sex, or just sex, or heck, even just a cuddle. This month, Amsterdam explores the intriguing (yet mostly hypothetical) question: “Is casual sex easier as we get older?”
Keep it fresh. That sounds like something we’d probably see on a head of lettuce at the supermarket. Or maybe it’s something some rapper would say on his new album. But, when I say, “Keep it fresh,” believe it or not, I’m talking about your JDate profile.
A lot of people recently stated their New Year’s resolution as, “I will find love in 2012.” If you’re one of those people, read on to find out how you can make this the year you find “The One”!
When one makes a decision to live transformationally, first and foremost, one is making a statement about the nature of the world and of humanity – a statement of deep conviction. One cannot reveal an essence that one is not firmly convinced is there. It also does not matter what one’s particular religion or belief system is – anyone can choose to live transformationally – there is no contradiction.
Read on to see which principles will lead you to a transformational life.