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The absolute foundation of everything that we build in the world is who we are as people. If you build a house on a crooked or cracked foundation, you will wind up with a crooked (and then cracked) house. The definition of ‘integrity’ is ‘complete, undivided, unblemished’. If we want to create a world that is complete, undivided, and unblemished – this is how we need to be ourselves. If our intention is to create (through our vision and our actions) a world that is interconnected, whole and in balance, we need to be whole and in balance ourselves.
Hanukkah is on the horizon, and whether you’ll be spending it with loved ones or the one you love, it’s the perfect time to reflect on what you learned this year and how to take those lessons of the heart with you into 2012. I’ve shared plenty of my own tales and advice, so this time around, I did some market research and came up with eight appropriate wine pairings.
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This simple weeknight dish is a powerhouse of healthy ingredients. I love making large batches of this and freezing some of it for leftovers. If you cannot find the Tuscan Kale, use any type of kale in the market or Swiss chard. The meatballs are delicious and make the dish hearty and family friendly.
I have been dating a man who has been divorced for two years but was married for 37 years. He said he wants to get married again, but he’s been hurt and has built walls up. Sometimes he is not dependable and seems to run from his feelings for me. He is just under 60 years old and I am in my middle 50s with no time to waste. What is your advice?
– In a Quandary
I always tell my clients that to really be successful dating online, they have to date like it’s their job. Most of us have found out the hard way that jobs generally take a lot of work. You can’t just show up on the front steps of a corporation expecting to get hired. You send out resumes, ask for referrals from friends, and network to get noticed. Your profile is like your online dating resume. It boasts about your background, your special skills, and is clear about what you are looking for. Referrals may be blind dates. Networking is like going to a bar.
One of the key differences between a meaningful life and a happy life involves the difference between choice and control. When we are trying to live a happy life, it helps a lot if life is cooperating with our preferences. In order for us to be happy, the lights can’t be too bright (or dim). The food can’t be too salty (or not salty enough). We may need a sweater. Heaven forbid if we forget our lip balm! When people are nice to us, we are happy. When people snap at us, look down their nose at us, or ignore us completely, we are not happy. This would be fine except that all of these things are difficult for us to control. And while we may think that we should be happy anyway, sometimes this is just too much for us. Happiness eludes us because control eludes us.
Planetary highlights for December: Mercury stationed retrograde on November 24th and will be moving backwards until December 13th. If you have to sign any contracts, it’s a good idea to wait until after the 12th. When Mercury is retrograde it’s a good time to RE-think, RE-organize, RE-do, RE….you get the idea. But wait until Mercury goes direct before you put any of those plans in action – if you want them to actually last that is! Now is a good time to back up your computers (you know this has been on your to do list for months anyway!) and maybe hold off on that serious convo you were thinking of having with your new partner. Since Mercury rules communication, in all forms, it’s not uncommon for things to be misunderstood. So perhaps it’s a good idea to wait on telling your new honey that you bought those Louboutins or that 72” TV….instead of that vacation you both have been talking about…just sayin…
We human beings like to think that we are the masters of our destiny – that we are able to shape the circumstances of our lives. Unfortunately, this is not always the case. We may be under stress because of our financial circumstances. We may not be satisfied with where we are in our professional lives. We may experience hurt (intentional or accidental) at the hands of others – even those we love. We experience disappointment when things that seemed promising at first do not turn out the way we had hoped. We may be lacking that special relationship that we so deeply desire. Our future may be uncertain. While all of this may seem a little bleak – it is all just a part of the reality of life – some of the ups and downs that make up a very human existence.