Dear Matchmaker Rabbi:
One of my biggest problems when it comes to my dating life is taking things too quickly. When I fall, I fall hard and might scare girls off. The problem is I feel like I have to act fast because, in the past, I have waited too long to ask out a girl I liked, and she found someone else.
If you’re looking for someone who’ll love you, you have to come across as, well, you. You should be the best version of yourself, but you still need to be yourself. The first step is to be concise. People looking through hundreds of profiles don’t read novels. They skim. Rather than giving them the option of picking out the best parts of your profile, do it for them. Omit things like “I hope I meet someone great” – who is on JDate to meet someone terrible?
I know that Purim is a few weeks off-but somehow the holiday creeps in and often I am left unprepared.
Every year I wait until the last minute to even think about Purim, and making Hamantaschen, and before I know it the holiday sneaks up on me and I end up buying Hamantaschen at the store or bakery.
There is a powerful idea in Judaism that action is more important than belief. What matters when you say a prayer is not whether, in that moment, you believe everything you are saying. Rather, what matters is you are doing the prayer – and the belief might come later. It’s an idea, backed by modern psychology, that how we talk about something can actually have a huge influence on how we think and feel about it!
Is your skin so chapped it crackles? Does your heart feel like it’s going to break from all the pressure? Are you sick and tired of waking up tired? It’s time you stop ignoring and start adoring yourself. The following list includes conditioning tips to help you renew yourself and start loving YOU better.
Whether you’re single and searching or cozily coupled and looking for something to spice up Valentine’s month (why dedicate only a day to love?), here are some of my favorite red wines, guaranteed to get your blood flowing and your cheeks flushing.
Drink them alone, or with rare steaks, salumi, or waxy grana cheeses like Parmigiano Reggiano or Pecorino.
Long touted for its affect on stamina and arousal, the Italian libertine Casanova ate chocolate before bedding his conquests. While the jury is still out on the possibility of chocolate being a sexual enhancer-we do know that chocolate tastes great. Just the mention of warm, luscious chocolate lights a fire in most chocolate lover’s hearts.
I don’t blame you for being annoyed. There was nothing I found more annoying during my years of dating than all the guys who were looking for women younger than themselves — sometimes even much younger — and who were unwilling to date someone even 3 or 5 years older. It’s not just hypocritical, it’s vain and even sexist.
Writing a heart-felt card is an invaluable gift that is sure to impress. Particularly for those individuals who do not excel in the art of writing composition, the fact that you put effort fourth is invaluable. Expressing your feelings is more important than expensive jewelry for many. 85% of all Valentine cards are bought by women. So don’t be another statistic and buy your Valentine a card!
My gut reaction to the whole thing was that it was just too weird. I know you can’t change what your parents do, but you can choose not to film it! But I did really connect with the guy and one of my girlfriends thinks that I should admire the fact he was so supportive of his mother. Should I go out on another date with him?