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If a man says he wants to keep things casual, is it okay to ask for more? If a man says he wants to keep things casual, is it okay to ask for more?

If you really do want to tell him, go for it! Perhaps he will be less likely to be wigged out if you explain to him that you realize he probably doesn’t want more — and that that is okay with you too. Of course, you can only assure him of that if it is actually the case. If you keep seeing each other casually, and it starts to feel like torture to you — then ending your association with him would be the best and kindest thing you could do for yourself

Jaded with JDate?
Jaded with JDate?

I was an experienced Internet dater. But had I pulled my profile every time a date made me desire celibacyforJews.com, I’d never have met the incredible man I’ve been with for several years or had the epic tales I turned into a novel. To reignite the JDate spark when you tire of your own screen name, recall the basic subjects you learned at school:

Memories of Past Passovers Memories of Past Passovers

It would be unfair of me to expect that the Seders my wife and I might throw in the future will involve just my traditions and not hers. So to help me think about which I’d like to keep (and entertain a few readers simultaneously), I wanted to recount the memories that most say Passover to me. I’d bet at least a few of these will remind you of your childhood, and help you determine what you’d like to keep, should you ever JDate your way to your own family.

No Need to Plotz
No Need to Plotz

All extra virgin olive oils are kosher for Passover and year round, even without kosher supervision. How awesome is that? We may give up our breads and cakes for eight days, but we will emerge from the holiday having feasted on foods made with delicious and healthy extra virgin olive oil. You cannot say that about Kosher for Passover oil which tends to be harsh and bitter and not healthy like extra virgin olive oil. How much cooking time and how many ingredients do you need to cover up the taste of bad oil?

The Art of the Champagne Barbecue The Art of the Champagne Barbecue

The Champagne barbecue differs little from the classic. The difference is in the bubbles.  A sparkling introduction in the form of Champagne, Cava, or Prosecco—in place of Bud or Stella –and followed by a slightly more sophisticated menu explicitly paired with wine.

To Kid Or Not To Kid
To Kid Or Not To Kid

You don’t have to defend yourself or keep yourself up at night worrying about pleasing people against what’s best for you on your wedding day. Hopefully, your adult guests will understand and respect your wishes. Some guests may indicate that either the kids come, too, or the whole family doesn’t come at all. Well, that’s unfortunate, but everyone has their priorities. So, this would be one of those cases you agree to disagree and continue to enjoy your bridal experience.

Is it just me, or do men never write back? Is it just me, or do men never write back?

Is it ridiculous? Of course. It is maddening and counterproductive in a dating platform whose sole purpose is to help people find their love match? Absolutely. But how else can you explain the fact that for every 10 men I wrote online, I was lucky if one wrote me back too? (And I, like you, had no shortage of compliments and kudos by people who knew me.) Unfortunately, I imagine this kind of old-fashioned thinking is even more prevalent among men in your age group than it was in mine.

Simple Rules to Surviving Single in an Office with Unfair Politics
Simple Rules to Surviving Single in an Office with Unfair Politics

“My job is my life.” Sound familiar? So how do you handle the fact that the workplace is a less friendly place for singles? Take a minute to consider these facts: More than 25% of Americans work for an employer that offers family and domestic partner benefits; 51% percent of Fortune 500 companies offer family and domestic partner health benefits, as do 80% of the Fortune 50. (Human Rights Campaign. “State of the Workplace”: 2006).

Lemon Risotto
Lemon Risotto

This decadent version of the Italian classic is a perfect first course or main dish. I like to serve it garnished with big shards of Parmigiano-Reggiano. The tangy lemon and salty cheese combine to create a big “wow” flavor and the mascarpone cheese puts this creamy decadent dish over the top.

I’m on disability and have no ambition. Will any Jewish woman have me? I’m on disability and have no ambition. Will any Jewish woman have me?

I think the question you should be asking is not whether an intelligent Jewish woman would agree to a date, but whether any intelligent woman would agree to a date. Would you agree to a date with you? If your answer to that is “yes” then, sure, I think there is hope. You just have to find the right person. If your answer is “probably not,” then you might think about what you can do to improve yourself and your life which, by the way, are great questions for any person to ask of themselves.

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