When I joined JDate, I mean when I really joined JDate, I didn’t just set up a profile, pick a random screen name, answer a few questions, find a color code that suited me and start flirting with strangers. Nope….I took a camera crew to the streets to document my experience.
Introducing JDate Walking, my new, online video series in which I take your advice on how to become the “MostEliJewble” bachelor on JDate. Think of it as the Great Jewish Dating Experiment. I come to you as a Jewish mound of clay willing to be molded by the hands of the JDate community.
When you first walk into the room, walk in with a sense of confidence even though you may be nervous. Be friendly, but do not be overly friendly; people may see this as “leeching” and may become uncomfortable. Try to “work the room” and meet as many people as you can, and always be “light and polite.” Keep the predominant focus of the conversation around the charity, not around your business.
Who hasn’t imagined the perfect first date at a dimly lit wine bar? Flickering tea lights, knees bumping under the table, warmth spreading to the legs, fingers brushing fingers as you clink your glasses…Flash forward to the perfect wedding, and there’s that same bottle of wine, the first one you ever shared. Do you really want your guests to guzzle a cheap Pinot Grigio that smells of, ahem, Linden tree blossoms (Google: “Queen Victoria and the Linden Tree”).
My matchmaker mom once told me that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I didn’t understand what this meant until a few years ago when someone broke my heart. After what seemed like months and months of crying, I finally understood this saying. I realized that it’s better to have been in love and have your heart broken than to be single and never have experienced a broken heart.
It’s that time of year again. The High Holy days. So break out your tickets, your ugliest ensemble that you save for synagogue, and put on your game-face.
Once you find your significant other, it’s important to make sure you don’t get bored of each other. It’s easy to fall into a relationship rut when things become dull. But don’t worry – you don’t have to be whisked away to Paris to have fun with your partner.
Dining out at posh restaurants in metropolitan cities such as Manhattan, Los Angeles, Miami and Boston can seem very tempting for an initial date, but if you are a young professional it can be very expensive! One of the best inventions of the 90’s was Restaurant Week.
Jared gave me a new mission statement, which was to be happy in life. Every day I am supposed to repeat the mantra, “Happiness is living the life I want. I cannot choose what has happened to me, but I can choose what I want to learn from these experiences and how to deal with them.”
Many beautiful women often ask me why a guy did not contact them after their date. They think if he did not call, that maybe he will reach out in 20 different ways online and stay glued to their devices. However, no matter how hard you try, there is still no way to attractively “dangle” yourself in front of someone to get them to contact you…
I have known Rabbi Jon Haddon for about 30 years and was active in his congregation Shearith Israel in the early 1990’s. We are still very good friends. When I was in the process of divorce, he was very supportive and even gave me good insights into what the singles world would be like. At that time, he was also single. He is now very happily married and has been for some time…