Living in New York City, I attend numerous events, functions and get-togethers for Shabbat dinners with my friends. No matter where I am, if it involves singles (and it usually does), everyone is having the same conversation. In short, people are complaining that New York City is a horrible city to live if your goal is to find a long-term relationship or marriage. But is it really?
As someone in her mid-thirties who has had more than her fair share of dates, my parent’s words ring in my ears loudly: “Stop looking for perfection.” To that I think, I’m not looking for perfection, just the perfect person for me. However, after a while, I start questioning myself. Are they right? Are my standards too high? Am I searching for the impossible and not giving people enough of a chance?
Oh, my synagogue sweetheart. The Jews may be God’s chosen people, but you are my chosen woman. Let me lead you upstairs now, much like Moses led our Jewish ancestors out of captivity in Egypt.
Robin Rosenaur recounts the struggle of holding on to her faith in love through a long string of first dates!
One of the loneliest, most challenging activities and times of day for singles who’ve not yet met their JDate Beshert is climbing into that big empty bed, late at night, all alone. But that need not be the case. You see, even when I don’t have a current romantic partner, I’m never alone at night in my bed. Why? Because joining me are the living memories of my past failed relationships.
Take a stroll through your local bookstore and you’ll find self-help guides telling you what to say during a job interview, a funeral, a corporate speech – even a conversation with a dolphin. Nowhere, however, will you find even one paragraph describing what might be appropriate to say to your lover while making love… until now.
I’ll start off with full disclosure, I’m a JDater® just like you, and have been on this site longer than I ever imagined, so clearly, I don’t have all of the answers. I do, however, have some of the answers, and will attempt to provide some insight as to why you’re not hearing back from women when you reach out.
So before you let yourself be swept away by someone new, give your JDate match this fool-proof quiz to see just how Jewish they truly are! If they can’t answer correctly, but you can, you may want to reconsider labeling them your Beshert!
Don’t be afraid to ask your new love to come home for the holidays at any point in the year, and don’t be hesitant to say yes.
Okay, I’ll admit it – we men excel at messing up our romantic lives. This is why romantic songs and movies and Hallmark cards are so popular – among women.