Sometimes women are just plain cruel online, right? I mean, why would a beautiful woman on JDate give you her phone number after a great conversation, agree to a phone call, and then not pick up the phone for a date?!
Online dating has a fair share of perks. One of my favorite perks is the opportunity to talk to as many women as I can about online dating on a daily basis. What could be better, right?
The weekend had arrived, romance was in the air, and after several hard days at work, I was so in the mood for love. I was looking good, feeling good, had a wallet filled with cash, and was ready, willing and able to do anything my hot, beautiful date desired. Life was filled with sweet potential. There was just one tiny problem – I didn’t have a hot, beautiful date. Despite all the bounty on JDate, I didn’t have a date, period. I was the sequel to Sleepless in Seattle. I was Dateless in Los Angeles.
When I moved to Chicago, one of my biggest challenges was meeting new people who shared my similar tastes and interests. There was such a cultural divide between where I grew up and the Midwest. It’s not to say that it was a negative thing, but rather, a readjustment (I promptly picked up snowboarding in lieu of my favorite Florida pastime — surfing.)
The profile intrigues me. The woman has everything I seek – the education, the cultural interests, the open smile with a hint of sauciness (lingering, intimate weekends), a passion for Judaism. I sense a connection. I write, she responds, we meet at a café midway between our suburban homes. Sitting outside on a spring evening, time simply stops as we both wonder if this could mean something. We kiss goodbye and then write to each other later that evening. We’ll meet again. Soon.
OK, that’s the fantasy. Here’s the reality.
So many guys want to know the best way to write an email. It’s a good question, and naturally, something people would want to know. However, sometimes even more important than learning how to write a great email is, learning how not to write an email. With that said, here are the top 3 mistakes you need to avoid!
In the last several years that I’ve worked as a dating coach, so much of my advice has had to become specific to online dating because it has essentially become the standard of dating today. Although I’m far from having concocted the perfect formula for writing a successful online profile, I have been able to dissect online profiles down to some key components. I’ll share my top components with you so that you too can spruce up your profile!
Being that I am so successful at writing emails that capture the attention of females, people are always asking me, “What emails will get the most responses?” Or, “Is there a magic system that works every time?” The answer to this question is somewhat complicated.
The debate has been whether or not looks are the only thing that matter when it comes to successfully dating women online.
The theory by some was that if you take two guys, one whom is good looking with a bad personality, and one whom is not good looking with a good personality, that the good looking guy will always win out. Well, not true at all in my oh-so not-so-humble opinion.
After years of denial, a piercing in my left ear and a brief infatuation with 80’s hair bands, I had come to accept my destiny…a curse, if you will, handed down by my father and his father before him. I was a nice Jewish boy.