We are all attracted to different things – looks, a sense of humor, financial security…but what is the compound that sustains a relationship for over thirty year? For me, attraction is not something that can be compromised. Since it is not honorable to go outside the marriage or commitment for sexual escapades, a baseline level of attraction needs to be present. Although, that attraction may evolve and change forms through the years. However, there is something even more important than attraction and I refer to that as my Rocking Chair Theory. Who do I want to be sitting next to on the porch on a hot summer day or cool evening in my rocking chair, sipping lemonade and reading the paper discussing the merits of the newest appointment to the Supreme Court OR not saying a word but being contently happy? When I think of my future potential mate, I always contemplate the Rocking Chair Theory and it helps bring clarity.