My matchmaker mom once told me that it’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. I didn’t understand what this meant until a few years ago when someone broke my heart. After what seemed like months and months of crying, I finally understood this saying. I realized that it’s better to have been in love and have your heart broken than to be single and never have experienced a broken heart.
While getting back into the dating game after having your heart broken is really hard, it’s something that must be done. So, here are some tips that helped me get over my broken heart.
1. Confidence Matters
Just because you’re going through a breakup, you can’t forget how fabulous you are. A breakup usually crushes your self-esteem, but you can’t let it. You have to remember what makes you amazing. Tell yourself each day that you’re fantastic, and soon you’ll start to believe it.
2. Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself
Regardless of who broke up with whom, moping doesn’t get you anywhere.
3. Forget The Past
All relationships are great at one point. But yours is over now. So forget about it. Don’t dwell on all of your good memories and try to figure out what went wrong. That won’t do you any good.
4. Shop ‘Til You Drop
A little retail therapy is wonderful. What better way to make yourself feel good than to buy some brand new clothes? A sexy new outfit can be better than a 90-minute massage.
5. Gym Time
When you’re feeling low, the gym is a miracle worker. You’d be surprised how fun getting sweaty can be. Besides, endorphins are like a natural high. So instead of feeling sorry for yourself, spend a few hours in the gym.
6. Party Hardy
Sitting on your couch watching romantic movies is fun – for a week. Trust me. You won’t be able to forget about your ex unless you’re out and about. Having fun with your friends is what you’re supposed to do.
7. Date Up a Storm
Until you meet someone who’s ten times better than your ex, you won’t forget about him. And let’s face it: you aren’t going to meet Mr. Perfect sitting on your couch. Believe me, I’ve been there and Mr. Perfect doesn’t just appear out of thin air. You have to date, date and date some more.
So, now that you know how to forget about your ex, get out there and do it! Remember, regardless of how bad your breakup is, it always gets better.