She says one day! He says two days! That guy says five days! And I want to call her right now!
It’s the age-old question: How long do us guys have to wait before actually calling the women that we just had a date with?
Let’s face it; we don’t often meet somebody that we are highly interested in calling. Finding the perfect match is tough. It’s very rare to go out on a date, hit it off, and daydream about all the happiness that this person may bring us. Maybe that’s what makes us guys stress all the more when we do finally find someone we want to call.
As the legendary Vince Vaughn once said in Swingers (a must see for single guys out there just getting out of a relationship), “Call too soon and you just might scare off a beautiful baby that’s ready to party.” We certainly don’t want to look desperate or too needy, as this is always a turn off for women.
On the other hand, we don’t want her to slowly lose all the great feelings and emotions that we created on our first date to be forgotten if we wait too long.
Ask five people and you may get five different answers. So what’s the answer?
While there is no advice, my answer … drum-roll please… Call the next day or two days at most. Surprised? The reason why is because online dating is a completely different animal than most forms of dating. With online dating there is a ton of competition. You may have had a great date but the emails are going to keep piling in for the person whom you hope to meet again. The longer you wait, the more time someone else may have to swoop in…and the more she may think you are not interested and emotionally move on. We must always remember online dating has to be treated differently than under normal circumstances.
Besides, waiting has become so cliché and obvious at this point in time. Calling the next day separates you from everyone else out there in a good way.
So what do you think out there? Are you with me ladies!?