Who Dares To Doubt Joshua Pompey?!
Today, I would like to write an article in response to a little debate that was occurring in regards to an article I previously wrote for JMag.
In this article, I discussed why having a great profile filled with humor is critical to successfully meeting women online.
My argument is that women naturally love humor, and that this is a highly attractive quality. In my opinion, and through tons of experience, humor not only has a tendency to make women have stronger feelings of attraction towards you, but shows women that you will make for an entertaining date, and at the bare minimum, she won’t be bored if she goes out with you on a harmless date.
A slight debate arose, but I would like to focus on the response of one person in particular that did not agree at all with what I said.
This person enthusiastically argued that at the end of the day, no matter how funny a person is, beautiful women will always choose the better looking guys who are probably boring and not as funny.
This is simply not true (in most cases) and I felt the topic was worth talking about in another article, considering I have helped countless men who come to me for help attract women online. Especially because my advice focuses specifically on the guys out there who are just “regular” looking.
Allow me to dissect this.
For starters, one of the most important qualities that will help men attract women is being extremely confident and appearing as if you are someone who women should want to date in any possible way.
Confidence can’t be faked, plain and simple. This is why I advise men to get a fresh haircut, new clothes, hit the gym, and work on their feelings of self worth before proceeding with online dating.
With that said, if someone is going into a date with the feeling of, “women will just choose the better looking guys anyway,” this means that he or she is going into the date with the assumption that he or she is going to fail.
Whether this is a conscious thought at the forefront of the person’s mind, or merely a backdrop in the recesses of his mind, these feelings are there nonetheless. And women can pick up on this. It shows a lack of confidence, and the dater will appear as if he is trying to “win” the interest of the female, when what he really should be doing is going into the date feeling as if he is a prize that she should be winning over herself!
Secondly, and more importantly, dating is extremely tough. And this is an understatement.
Once upon a time before I became an expert at dating I would go on dates, be nice, “funny,” and do everything “right.”
Nobody would EVER call me back.
So what did I do? I couldn’t make sense of the situation, so I assumed it was my looks. If I was nice, funny, and doing things right, then it had to be looks, right?
It wasn’t until years later that I realized I was an awful date. I came across as overly nice, generic, just like every guy, and wasn’t really being nearly as funny as I thought I was.
In hindsight everything is clear. Back then however, I was just bitter and angry!
My point is, dating takes a ton of practice, and you need to learn all the skills. Any time you leave a date and the woman doesn’t return a call, it’s not her fault, it’s yours! That’s right, EVERY time!
If you were great at dating, you would have captured her interest. Period.
So don’t always assume women will leave you for the first good-looking guy. It’s not true. Just look on the streets at the hundreds of mismatched couples that you see walking every single day for further proof!
Joshua Pompey has helped “regular guys” all over the world meet women with the help of his online dating guide. For more free information on online dating and methods to help you attract women online, be sure to visit Joshua Pompey’s website.