There is one dating turnoff that kills more potential relationships than any known to man. Even worse, millions of men across the world are committing this deadly sin every single day. The question is, are you guilty of this mistake?
The sin in question involves men who give up their confident status in order to win over the approval of a female. I am talking about men who give up all their “manliness” in an attempt to make women like them. These are men who become complete pushovers in every aspect of their dating lives. They let the females they are trying to date make every single decision. These men communicate to women that lady in the relationship is always in control, always decides what the couples will do, and will get what she wants no matter what. The man makes it look like he’s letting this happen because he’s a nice guy and he really like the girl.
In my opinion, the only problem with this is that women HATE this type of behavior more than anything. Nothing turns a woman off more than dating a man who turns into a total wuss in an attempt to impress a woman.
The logic behind acting this way is faulty on many levels. Many men think if they act nice enough, do anything a woman wants, and shower her with compliments, their date will eventually surrender emotionally and become attracted to them. This is not how attraction works.
Attraction is something that human beings feel on an unconscious level. We need to make women FEEL this attraction by writing our profiles and emails properly, as well as communicating the right way over the phone, and on our dates with our bodies and words. Trying to convince a woman to feel attracted to us by being super nice and doing everything she wants, will do nothing.
Women are attracted to men who are strong-minded, confident, and know how to take charge when the situation calls for it (as long as these qualities are not taken to overbearing extremes).
Think about the last time you may have made a small mistake with a prospective date. Let’s take a look at an example by analyzing the act of asking a woman out on the phone:
Did you confidently tell your date where you were going to go on your date? Or did you ask her what type of food she prefers and question her about her favorite restaurants?
It’s okay to pry for a little information. After all, we don’t want to take a woman who is a vegetarian to a steak house! Still, once you have a little bit of info, just make the decision.
You need to get in the habit of making decisions, taking charge, and showing confidence. Guys who completely give up their status for women will never build the attraction they want. And even if the girl does still go out with you, the respect and level of attraction will never be as high as it could be! The process of being successful all begins with learning to build attraction.