I recently met a wonderful man who seems like a great catch. He’s nice, smart, funny, would make a great husband – and I’m pretty sure he’s into me!
Here’s the problem: I’m just not attracted to him (mostly because he’s shorter than me). Do you think it’s possible for me to get over the appearance issue and find love with this truly great guy?
Attraction is a requirement for a marriage partner. What creates that attraction differs for every individual. It usually results from a combination of factors including appearance, personality, intellect, sense of humor, morals, religious convictions, etc.
Are you looking for me to tell you that you’re an idiot for dumping a man who you think could be your husband just because he’s a few inches shorter than you? I can’t do that. Only you have the power to change what makes you feel attracted to someone.
If you can get over your irrational aversion to a few missing inches and discover attraction in his other amazing qualities, then you’ll be a winner in more ways than one. If you can’t get past his height and just can’t see yourself sharing a bedroom with this man, then you should move on and find someone you are attracted to.
I think you should give him a chance to grow on you and possibly change the way you feel about him. Give him a few weeks, maybe even a month or two. I’ve seen many instances where women who started off without feeling attraction for a man became attracted after getting to know him on a deeper level. You’ll know when you’ve given it enough time.
Best of luck,